I have a BIL that pulls all kinds of crap, he only takes the kids when his parents are in town then drops them off at my house because the grandparents should spend time with his kids. Never mind that I had other plans.
My BIL has done many things over the years that my MIL has asked my to suck up and take. One that stands out was the time he made my 7 year old cry and she stood up for my BIL I told her a few years later that I lost all respect for her that day, it did not matter if BIL was right or wrong, she as the grandmother should have stood up for her innocent grandchild not the 30 year old. All I wanted from my Bill was a back handed apology for my son, "I am sorry I made you cry", MIL said I was wrong to expect that.
The last time he dropped the kids off was the day I hit my limit, he dropped the kids off at 8:30 am, pretended he had an errand, didn't say good bye to the kids, just walked out the door. and finally called 10 hours later, did I mention he left his 10 week old puppy too? told my MIL the puppy would be fine until he got back. When he called he asked if there was anything he could pick up for us, I yelled YOUR KIDS! I spent the entire day yelling at the kids, don't hit your brother, don't spit on your brother, put that down! and the 5 year old was not toilet trained (UMM YUCK!!!!!) and my MIL was mad at me because I was mean to my Bil while she went into the other room to find a little bit of quiet!!
Since then, Bill is not allowed at our house, if the in laws want to see the kids they have to do it elsewhere, I don't know, like at HIS HOUSE? (BTW he just made a room for his kids at his house, hs girlfriends 4kids each have a room but not one for his kids, he finally put one together when after 2 years his parents wanted to see his home) I put up with my BIL for 15 years because my mother in law asked me to be nice to him. But she never puts up with him, she walks away and I have to deal with it. It has been the least stressful year of my life not having BIL around.
it is unbelievable that he can't understand why no one likes him (did I mention he olny talks about himself, gym and the great deal he gets on chicken for his low fat high protein diet) he never ask about anone else (still has no idea what I do for work) and didn't understand why he was not invited to Thanksgiving with his extended family. MY MIL tried to plead his case to me, I told her I did not want to hear it, she does not get to ask me to do anything for him any more AND if sh felt stongly enough the BIL be invited and she wasn't she should have not gone herself.
My son's bar Mitzvah is coming up, he is not invited and my MIL is pissed. UDH's grandmother will be when she finds out) my ex SIL good friend from collage and still friends) thinks that her kids will be upset to not have their dad at a "family event" I told her that there are a million other things he does not do that my son's Bar Mitzvah should be the least of her problems, BIL has never said a kind workd to me or even a hello to my kids, heuse to come into my house and not say a word to me, eat and leave, he never says thank you, and wonders why we don't want to include him. The final kicker, but not for MIL was when her brother passed away and he though it was an apprpriate time for ther to meet hi GF of 2 years (because there of coures was no better time for that) he wanted to bring her to the funeral but she had not met anyone, and I had to put down my foot and tell him that it was not an appropriate time. At the funeral (god I can't believe I am about to type this, he complained that the casket was heavy and that he was going to have to go see the chiropractor and miss a day at the gym!
I am so done with him and Mil frankly but DH is not done with her! Boy it felt good to vent that
but I know the crap will hit the fan when the invitations go out and he is NOT invited, MIL is tryng to tell me it is a mistake I can never fix...how about the mistake she made letting her son bully a 7 year old?
Thanks for letting me vent!
Families! GEEZZZ
