It isn't "MOTIVATION" that you lack, obviously you want this for yourself or you would be here posting. you lack "CONFRONTATION" How long have you been overweight? did 10lbs turn to 20, 30, 40. Were you ignoring the scale hoping they didn't exist hoping it would just go way? Are you nice? do you give in to avoid conflict with others? Do you settle for less because you feel that is what you deserve? or do you indulge thinking that you "NEED" it in you life. be it a dress, a car, lipstick. have you been self indulgent in otherways and then punishing yourself with food, or is the answer that you just can't seem to say NO because you want it! because you deserve the extra peice of cake, the cookies the midnight icecream feast. Understand the pounds are there because some part of you wants them to be there!!! Are you a private person hiding behind your fat body not letting anyone see the real you. Your fat has been a great friend, it has protected you for all of these many years. But you don't need it anymore, its time to "CONFRONT" The part of yourself that has helped you for so long. Honor and acknowlege that you needed this weight. It isn't that you lacked self control. You must find out why you needed the weight. What purpose has it served for so long. only then will you be free. Close your eyes and imagine a theater, it can be anything you want a old time dance hall, a giant open collisum, a baquet room. Now imagine that you are on the stage, what is your seat? a throne, a stool, a comfrontable sofa what ever you like. This is all about you and only you. Now you have a adiuence.....who is in the seats? They walk in one by one it can be a famous person who you admire, old friends there to, lovers, parents, aunts uncles old bosses....even school friends that offended you. This is your stage and you can have anyone you need to be there. Now ask the question. I want to talk to the person that is keeping me fat!! I need your help...thankyou for protecting me. but we no longer need this weight I need to know why we needed what purpose has it served. It will take some soul searching.........but when you figure out the higher purpose and find other ways to cope. purhaps your fat makes you feel safe. Then take a martial arts class to give yourself that need without food. or maybe its a fear of being thinner...picture yourself at your ideal wieght.....what pictures unfold ...what the worst that could happen..and then find a way to handle that fear.
Wheather it is protection....self punishment...rebellion....what ever it was you don't need it anymore.....just decide and negoiate with yourself to make compromises....the real you inside and she is screaming to get out....When you find her.........you will find you motivation........... Love and Peace be with you in this journey................
signed.........Zenrhythm.(still getting to know the real me and she is wonderful))