But, I have never had any problems at any weight attracting the opposite sex. I have always dressed nicely, kept my hair with at least a little bit of style and have always worn makeup to enhance the good things that I felt I did have.
I agree. When I've been interested, I haven't had much trouble with it. And I dress to be comfortable, and to hide my butt, and I don't do much with my hair except keep it clean and neat, and I almost never wear makeup or nylons.
I haven't really been on the prowl except when I feel good about myself, which comes and goes... But when I do feel good about myself... wham! it's like a lightbulb in the middle of the night, attracting all sorts of insects to it. Attitude REALLY has a great deal to do with it. That energy and confidence and flirtiness and openness is like catnip to many guys. And I'm a certified very strong introvert on the Myers-Briggs personality type indicator, so it's not just the in-your-face girls that get the guys.
When I met my husband, I was dating three guys, and living with a fourth (mostly platonic by that time). When we got engaged, we ended up getting an apartment together, not because we necessarily could afford one, but because I just couldn't see living with one guy while being engaged to another. *laughs*
But I'm clever, and well-read, and "nice", and enjoy laughing... and it all makes a pretty cool package, by and large.