[JsMommy]

Originally Posted by iSpoons

Don't let her get under your skin. There's only room enough for one person under there, and that's you.

I LOVE that!!!

[imthegoddess]

Coworkers are a strange breed, I'll give you that. I am a very social person at work. I'm upbeat, friendly, and I'll take to anyone. I has been a very hard lesson for me to learn not to share too much personally. I've shared before, and it has come back to sting me over and over. This is one of the reasons I haven't shared I'm dieting with anyone at work other than my old office mate.

I think others are right when they say this woman is most likely insecure in her own body, and is jealous seeing you being successful. I don't think there is too much you can do about it now. If you press it with your boss, and your boss pursues it with her, it could cause a more uncomfortable situation. Same with HR. Like you said, you have to sit 10 feet away, and there are not any other viable options. I feel for you, and really don't have much advice except try to ignore her. I think like someone else pointed out, if she is not getting the reaction she wants, she will find it too much effort to continue. But, as long as she is hitting your buttons, she will continue.

[Rin]

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that at work! That's really obnoxious of her, and she truly seems like an unhappy person. How a person acts/speaks says much more about themselves than whoever they're talking about/to. But you definitely should not have to put up with such toxic behavior! Hope you are able to work it out where you can have a healthy work environment!

I have a coworker who is pretty obnoxious (but not as bad as yours!). She comments every single day on my lunch, and it's really annoying.

[Owldoit]

Hi JsMommy!

Wow, your story sounds so familiar. I once had a "friend" who would do the same thing. She was a little over 400 lbs and was just miserable to me. A few times we went to the casino and had dinner at their buffet and I had control over myself not to over eat and she would make comments like "why even bother if you aren't going to eat?" or "Lightweights shouldn't come to buffets."! She would intentionally flaunt my favorite foods in front of me and eat with no regard. I finally just either removed myself from the situation but at times when I couldn't, (we also worked together) I would say something like "Thanks for your concern but I have it handled." or "I already took care of it" and I would always follow up with a smile. It took about a month or so but when she saw that she wasn't getting under my skin anymore and I was always sweet as pie to her when she was being down right rude or snarky she eventually stopped. As previous posters have said, misery loves company and when someone who knows or believes in their minds that they can't overcome what you are, they want to destroy any progress you have made. You sound like you are doing what you need to do for yourself and that's the only thing that matters. From now on I wouldn't even offer her any explanation if you logged your food or not. It's none of her business and the only person you have to be accountable for is you.
Keep up the good work! You've got it!

[1Bluerose68]

I just detest when people do that to me, especially round the delicious holidays. I just act polite, realize it's only for 1 day, eat, smile, Listen to table talk, and next thing i know, is I'm back in The Driver's Seat, and NOT feeling pressured to fill my tummy up so much that i would feel ill. Sometimes when i just Listen to the talk, they won't even notice that i'm not eating because they are being Listened to, and they are so very important.

[1Bluerose68]

She'll say here try this along with your lunch even though i just had that in a smaller portion in my lunch. She's so sweet. And yet she is so miserably unfocused in the morning at check in time if I arrive too early. So I don't arrive too early and then I don't have to witness her w/o her coffee kick or not having found what the heck ever she is searching for so intently after i arrive to say hello in the morning at work.

[imthegoddess]

Just an update on my experience. I've lost 21 pounds through last Friday, and as I said before, I haven't shared the fact i was dieting to anyone at work except my old office mate. We have these other two team members. Anyway, I shared an office with one when I first came because she was training me, and I've heard enough stories from the other one to know they are really snarky and not so nice. For over a year, one has been talking non stop about how thin she use to be, and how she misses her old body, and how she is finally going to get back to her old self. The other one eats her diet lunches, but most of the time the two order in for lunch. All the time talking about when they are going to begin their diet. So, you can imagine the conversations between the two about new years and their diet goals. Jump to March, and you can imagine how that has gone. I specifically didn't say anything to them because they are the type who would get immense pleasure out of someone else's failure. It would overshadow theirs in their mind. Well yesterday they noticed and one of them said something about my weight loss. She said, you look a lot thinner. I said thank you, I think when I put on these pants today, they looked slimming. She said no, I've noticed in your other clothes too. The other one spoke up and asked, is this intentional? WTF? What kind of question is that? I just said yes, and left it at that. The other one said she was a little jealous. Probably the most truthful thing she ever said to me. I'm sure they had a much more in depth conversation about my weight after I left. And I am sure they hope I fail.

[iSpoons]

goddess - congrats on your successful weight-loss and your successful navigation of work-haters! It sounds like you handled that perfectly! Keep up the great work!

[Defatify]

Yay for the weight loss and the classy handlng of unclassy people! I so wish people would learn to just "stay in their lane" as the kids say these days.

[JsMommy]

The other day my co-worker said "Soon you are going to disappear if you turn sideways." I just smiled and went on. Hopefully she gets the hint that I won't be goaded into her game

[imthegoddess]

Originally Posted by JsMommy

The other day my co-worker said "Soon you are going to disappear if you turn sideways." I just smiled and went on. Hopefully she gets the hint that I won't be goaded into her game

Good for you. Maybe she will learn. Maybe at least with you.