3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community - Self Image Issues/Shaky Confidence

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Originally Posted by Goddess Jessica (Post 4315815)

If I was horseback riding (which kudos to you for doing because it scares the pants off of me), I would chant:
"I am Khaleesi. Mother of Dragons. Dothraki Queen."

You are woman after my own heart.

:cp::cp::cp:

Done and done. Best advice ever.

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Originally Posted by Arctic Mama (Post 4314504)

To use an analogy, think of weight loss as a tent. The poles and structure are your habits, and they dictate the strength and shape of the tent. The ground beneath you is who you are, and it is unchanged and independent of the habit changes - it isn't improved or diminished by the thing above it. And the shell of the tent is our physical appearance. It is what everyone sees and the final product, but it is nothing without the strength and firmament underneath, no matter what appearances may suggest.

This is soo helpful. THANK YOU!

You're welcome. I'm surprised my bad analogy made any sense at all - pure luck!

My really true dream in life is to own and ride horses. I'm still a VERY GREEN beginner; I've put school and such before beginning this goal. Now that I've been out of school for a couple of years, I've been putting off learning to ride because I feel that I would look like a blob on a horse :(. I want to feel good and confident! But I'm also sad in the fact that I haven't started my dream yet and I'm nearing 25. I bit the bullet and signed up for a beginner's clinic in a couple of weekends. Yes, I will prob look like a blob but I think my happiness of riding a horse will outweigh my blobiness. If I like the instructor enough, I may chose him to begin beginner's lessons (which I have made one of my weight loss goals... I get a "gift" for every 10 lbs lost and I chose lessons as one). I eventually may want to take up barrel racing! But in order to achieve all of this, I need to get past the mental block of my image.

Be happy you are doing what you love and that you took the courage to get on a horse!

I've been struggling for a while, so I was very grateful to read this thread, thanks to posters!