I am 44 years old and she is 58 I wonder if its a mother thing?

Wow ! I bet that felt good.

Maybe. Who knows? I do know that some people equate you eating / liking their food as liking them.

Or like a bonding ritual -- to have an eating buddy?

A.

It sounds like she just likes to meddle. And undermine. If the situation comes up that allows you to apologize, try making an analogy to taking medicine. "I know you don't want me to feel deprived. But you'd never suggest that skipping a dose of medicine just once wouldn't hurt. I feel the same about this."

Lin

Yes Bargoo actually it DID!!

Astrophe: I don't mind being the eating buddy but she needs to get on some low calories food and stop pushing the bakery!

We will see what happens Lin. 3 of us work in this cramp tiny room all day together so eventually I will have to speak to her again! LOL!

SmallSteps: I'm more of a lurker than anything else, but I wanted to pop out of the shadows, because you're reaction to your co-worker made me smile today :)

What I say to the food pushers is this... "Thanks, but NO thank you I am allergic to ________ (whatever it is), it makes my @ss swell!" :)
Yup, honesty is the best policy..:D

Congratulations!

Thanks staja! This is what happens when you catch me on a pre menstrual day! lol

this almost made me spit my water out. lol... i like it.

Does she have children? Are they overweight? I know a lot of mothers who are food pushers to their coworkers. It helps them feel like they are helping and doing something good and nice. Most of the them have overweight children since I think food pushing makes them feel like they are showing love and affection.

Her children are grown and do not live with her. She lives all alone doesn't even have a pet that I know of. She is just a mean evil woman.

SmallSteps - I hope it all works out. Life is too short to be in situations that are uncomfortable or that make us unhappy. I like the I'm "allergic" comment better than the diabetic one. I'm not sure it's a good idea to "fib" about a medical condition at the workplace. You never know where that info might end up. The allergic comment is obviously a joke.

Lin

wow! Kudos to you for standing up to her! Maybe she'll get the message! :cheer: