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Originally Posted by Redheadchick
Do you know what I hate? I hate it when someone gives you a weight loss complement and then the skinny girl in the background, who has never weighed over 120 pounds in her life, pipes up that "yeah, I need to lose some weight too, I am getting soooo fat, and I just look disgusting." You know, ok, I understand that there are times in life when someone may need to make themselves feel better. I know that even though I hate that I am 223 pounds there are people out there working as hard as I am so they can see the 223 on their scales. But let the fat girl have her moment! Not only that, but if someone who might weigh that fabled 120 comments that they look disgusting, I can only imagine what they think I look like!
Am I just being oversensitive here?
I don't think you are being oversensitive because I have been in the same type of situation where my friends will be discussing weight loss and the skinniest one of us will pipe in with about how she is getting fat and needs to lose weight. I called her on it one time and she apologized. Her explanation was that she was looking for some way to relate to all of us about weight. She has never had a weight problem so she said she honestly wasn't sure what to say or how to get involved in the conversation. Therefore, she figured if she mentioned she had to lose some we would feel more camaraderie.
*shrug* A lot of times when people mention needing to lose weigh to others, they want to relate to us so we don't feel so leaper-ish. Saying they need to lose weight is the best way to put themselves on the same footing.
As someone who is overweight, it doesn't make it better but I don't take it personally when people say stuff like that anymore. I hope this makes sense but I might not have explained well.
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This lady is always talking about how great she looks, mentioning her weight, mentioning her clothing size, etc. And it was just that suddenly she pipes up about gaining a few and looking "disgusting" that ticked me off.
I just read this last post and figured I would add...
This sounds to me like she has self esteem issues. She needs people to acknowledge that she is attractive or she doesn't feel validated. She needs the compliments, comments and looks she gets when she talks about herself to feel better. If she is skinny, mentions she gains a few pounds and still looks great, people will rush to deny it and compliment her. It reassures her of her place and boosts her self esteem. Or she might just be a cankerous nasty lady. I really don't know.