3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community

My parents used to always do this... and I am pretty sure it almost always back fires and leads to eating in secrecy as many others mentioned, and even binging then I believe. For example instead of having a handful of chips now I will go eat half the bag later when everyone else is not around. Of course this can be counterproductive.

My boyfriend is also helping me with my diet (although it is from quite a large distance, some 5000 miles) and sometimes I feel frustrated as well- like it is TOM and I would like some chocolate after sticking to this strict diet so long-- ya know?? Though I want his help, and asked for his support (intervention)... Sometimes it just brings me back that knee jerk reaction from being a kid... I can't help it. That "you can't tell me what to do- I will just do it when you aren't around!"

If you asked him to help then you can't really blame him other than to talk with him about it later- like if we are in public can we have like some code word or phrase or hand signal or something- instead of telling me not to eat something in front of others?? Because then you know what he means- and no one else does - and you still have the choice, but he helped in his own way. Explain how it makes you feel when he did (or does) that in front of others- embarrassed, offended, angry, sad- and explain why (my parents used to do this to me, then I began sneaking food, whatever the reason). I feel this will really help drive it home, because maybe he just doesn't know how it makes you feel, and maybe knowing why would drive the point home... And if he uses that secret signal when you are out or with company-- you choose to have those chips then that is your choice, but at least he was able to do his part in supporting you.

Even after I get mad at my bf occasionally- when I dream about having Mexican food or a cookie and he tells me no- *pout* it really isn't serious on my part I am dedicated to my diet but even so, having that extra person to tell you no, because you have come this far, and doing so well... It really gives you that extra confidence and will power to make the best choice for yourself. Sometimes you are already thinking... "I really shouldn't be doing this..." and that extra voice from someone you trust and has your best interest at heart will give you that extra boost you need. :)

For the record, I don't think that he is right. He should not tell you what to eat at all- unless you have asked him to help. And even if you asked him to help it was not the right time, place, or way. Never in front of others, it comes off as patronizing.