Yes...I agree, it's the "qualifier" behind the compliment that's insulting and totally frustrating!!
Ok...ok....I've looked in the mirror, and said to my own self, "SELF, you would be soooooooooooo much prettier if you were to lose this weight"...
Now don't get me wrong...I believe in "tact" and it's not tactful to tell that to someone...
However, this IS what people feel...heck...this is what many people feel about THEMSELVES...I'm sure we all do, that's why we are doing something about it. The proof is how after we drop a few lbs, we can't get to the makeup counter fast enough, or to the salon to get that new haircut. FAT doesn't make you look ugly, it simply HIDES the beauty that is already there.
Please no offense ladies...I'm just expressing what some people may be too afraid to. Trust me...I'm my own worst critic...probably why I'm so thick skinned!