This weekend I saw a bunch of people that I have not seen in a year. My weight loss was a big topic of conversation. I have to admit, for the most part, I loved the compliments. However.......... there were some awkward ones. I thought that it might be fun to have a thread of awkward and down right bad compliments.
The winner of my worst compliment award................
"Boy, you have lost a TON of weight!" My response, "Well, not quite a TON!"
I tried on a dress recently that I bought at the start of my journey. It was pretty much like a sausage casing at first, and now it fits WAAAY better. Anyway, I put it on yesterday and I asked my husband if it looked okay for me to wear in public now. To which he replies "Yeah, I can see a HUGE difference." I know he meant it in a good way, but it just sounded wrong!
It's people who compliment me, and then, later in our conversation, disparage fat people, such as coworkers who "got fat" or "are now even fatter."
I always wince inwardly & die a little. Probably I should challenge them or make a little speech, but I say nothing. Not a word. But my sympathies are all with the people they're disparaging. It's like it's now okay to hurl slurs against overweight people in front of me, because I overcame the sin of sloth & converted to thin-ism.
My Grandma told me she was proud of me and she was so thankful I finally decided to lose weight and am not so "horribly fat" anymore. Then she went on to make sure I know how "disgusting" I used to look and that I look so much better now that I "finally have a neck". Yeah.
The very worst compliment was one I gave myself recently after losing 17 lbs.- I told my husband "well now, maybe I look a little less grotesque".
What's up with talking to myself like that????? I really had to talk to me about not doing that to me!!!! Just realizing that the thought came into my head made me think twice about bad self talk. Then I gave myself a hug.
If any member of 3FCs had said that about themselves, I would have posted some words of encouragement. I decided to do that for myself.
I don't care as much about what others say to me - but I sure care about what I say to me!
At my book club, another woman has lost about 50 lbs., and someone said to her how great her body was looking...and as soon as she was out of the room she said "funny i thought she had a pretty face when she was fat, but now that i can really see it - not so much" WOW.
Naturally I had to say "you realize you said that OUT LOUD right???" heh i can't even stop myelf
The worst thing I've heard about myself was "you must be so happy to be slim now....MAYBE YOU'LL GET TO KEEP THAT HANDSOME HUSBAND OF YOURS" OMFG (again, couldn't stop myself, "well what's your excuse Miriam?? you're slim-ish and you have no husband at all" MEOW lol)
At my book club, another woman has lost about 50 lbs., and someone said to her how great her body was looking...and as soon as she was out of the room she said "funny i thought she had a pretty face when she was fat, but now that i can really see it - not so much" WOW.
Naturally I had to say "you realize you said that OUT LOUD right???" heh i can't even stop myelf
The worst thing I've heard about myself was "you must be so happy to be slim now....MAYBE YOU'LL GET TO KEEP THAT HANDSOME HUSBAND OF YOURS" OMFG (again, couldn't stop myself, "well what's your excuse Miriam?? you're slim-ish and you have no husband at all" MEOW lol)
Wow, woman! I'd give half of my shiny soul to be as amazingly confident as you are. I may THINK things like that all the time, but the mere thought of actually stepping out and standing up like that makes me quake in fear! Go you, girl!
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Also, I don't think I've really had any "bad" compliments. Of course, I've been off the wagon for about three months now. So I haven't actually heard any compliments at all. Lol.
At my book club, another woman has lost about 50 lbs., and someone said to her how great her body was looking...and as soon as she was out of the room she said "funny i thought she had a pretty face when she was fat, but now that i can really see it - not so much" WOW.
Naturally I had to say "you realize you said that OUT LOUD right???" heh i can't even stop myelf
The worst thing I've heard about myself was "you must be so happy to be slim now....MAYBE YOU'LL GET TO KEEP THAT HANDSOME HUSBAND OF YOURS" OMFG (again, couldn't stop myself, "well what's your excuse Miriam?? you're slim-ish and you have no husband at all" MEOW lol)
What was your worst compliment??
I really had to talk to me about not doing that to me!!!! Just realizing that the thought came into my head made me think twice about bad self talk. Then I gave myself a hug. 
