I haven't gotten any compliment/insults like that before, but I had a client tell me once - completely out of the blue - "Don't let anyone ever tell you that you should lose weight. A good man like a big woman like you, just perfect!" ... um, thanks?
lol @time2lose, anytime!! come hang out with me in canada! The trick is to have an animated face and a funny/sarcastic tone so you don't seem like a ragin b!tch but get the point across LOL
I was talking about being upset that my weight was so high. And my SO went "Babe, its ok. Its not like I'm dating you for your hot body."
I was a little taken aback and she went on to babble about how she loves me no matter what weight I am and that what she meant was that I was so smart...which wasn't really much better. Granted, I knew what she really meant, but goodness, that stung.
I don't get too many back handed compliments but I have had a couple. My favorite: You don't look as fat in that bathing suit. My comeback: Ummm, you do realize that is NOT a compliment, right? Confused look from friend. My response: A compliment would be something like "You look slimmer in your bathing suit. Anytime you use the word 'fat' you are not complimenting someone." Again, a confused look from friend. In the end, we agreed to disagree. LOL!
I saw a friend several months ago and when she walked in she said " Ooooh, NOW you look pretty." Wow. That one left me speechless. I am so grateful that there was another friend in the room so I could take up with some busy work and let it go. Really, that left me speechless. This friend is not mean spirited at all, maybe I just took it the wrong way but it hurt.
And another favorite is the one friend who said to me before leaving "Keep getting smaller". Okay, I get it. Still not small enough. Leave me alone. The look I gave her spoke volumes apparently because before I got a chance to say anything she corrected herself and said, "Keep getting healthier". Yeah, okay.
That's all I can think of, so not bad in my book.
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Mine is always the same, people ask "How did YOU do it?" In such a tone that makes me believe that they really want to know how someone LIKE ME did it. And then they expect some far out answer like "magic" or "smurf juice" in response.
Unfortunately, this is my second journey with weight loss. I lost almost 100 lbs. one other time in my life. I had not seen my mother or my sister in over a year. My sister looked at me and said "stop losing, you are getting way too skinny", my Mom then chimed in "no way is she getting too skinny, look at all the extra fat still on her butt and belly." OUCH.
Hard to imagine that I have any emotional eating problems growing up with my Mom, huh? I absolutely will not talk to anything weight related with her because of her attitude. She has always been thin, and to be fair, always worked at it, but she has an awful attitude toward overweight people. You can't imagine.
"I'm so glad you're finally getting healthy. I can really see a difference in you. My god, when you used to eat like a lumberjack, I would just be like *makes disgusted face*."
Gotta love my grandmother. My ex-fat grandmother who weighed 290 pounds, is barely five feet tall, got a gastric bypass, and suddenly felt superior to fat people.
So you know what? I took these vintage sundresses she bought in Honolulu in the fifties, the ones she got into at her tiniest (She's way too big for them now) and got them dry cleaned and they're hanging in my closet in garment bags.
She kind of laughed when I said I'm getting pinup photos taken at goal, but what she doesn't realize is that I'm getting them taken in those dresses. HA BURN! (Actually only one of the dresses is hers. It's probably going to be too big for me at goal, I'll probably take the pinup photos in her mother's hawaain sundresses from the 40's.)
