My husband comes from a family that will sit down to dinner after their mom makes a meal all day and point out any flaws they find. Not enough salt, to much butter, something is missing...it drives me crazy. One day I told them all that if they ever treated me that way I would never cook for them again.
Now lets transfer that to my husband and I and my weightloss. I have lost over 45 lbs yet on occasion when my weightloss comes up my husband will say something like, "You've doing great, but you still have a long way to go." or when I told him my personal goal right now was to weigh 157, he said, "You should lose more than that." To which I pointed out my weight was about 157 when we met and I think I looked pretty darn good then.
So tonight I said, "It hurts my feelings when you say things like that, I know I need to lose more weight right now, I am not blind I can see how fat I am." To which he gets mad at me and says well that is my issue, he would never say anything about my weight to be mean and he knows that I would never say anything about his weight to be mean because he knows I love him. Why in the world is my saying what he said hurts my feelings my issue? I think it is our issue, and he should avoid saying things like that to avoid hurting my feelings.
Sorry for the rant...I just had to get it out.