My daughter has gone from 260 to 195 simply, she says, by "NOT EATING"...what a concept ?!?! While I have been taken since late September to lose 35 lbs...and now, even gained back 5 of them.
I am amazed at how great she looks and feels, but I must admit, I am a little envious. Guess there IS something to calorie restriction after all.

What exactly do you mean by "NOT EATING"? i'm lost

I mean, she just snacks a little from time to time. She's 31 and doesn't live with me, so I don't know exactly what she is eating (and, yes, I have advised her to make sure that she is getting proper nutrition). I have been getting pictures by email, and she looks really great.... and healthy.

You may not be getting the whole story--and even the part of it you are getting may not be accurate. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your daughter, but if my mom asked me about my diet and exercise habits, I would be really guarded with her. Although we get along for the most part, there's just so much history there about diet, exercise, and body image that I would share information very cautiously. (I'm older than your daughter, if that matters.)

Well, I do know my daughter very well, and athough I am sure there are areas of her life where she is not likely to be up-front...this is not one of them. From what I can tell she is actualy re-inventing herself after a long time (and not so great) relationship tanked....and making some positive changes.... besides the weight loss.

Looking healthy and being healthy are not the same thing. Snacking from time to time is not nutrition it is starvation. 65lb in 12 weeks is ridiculous it's nearly 5.5lb a week average that's a daily deficit of over 2500 calories!

i agree proper nutrition is key as well as exercise to keep the weight off. crash dieting is not only unhealthy but irregular eating/improper nutrition can lead to overeating and it can really make it difficult to maintain such a weight loss

Could you have mis-heard her starting weight? I can believe 216-190 in 3 months, but I know people who have had WLS that didn't lose 65 lbs in 3 months (one lost close to that, but the other 2 slower).

Don't know if its my place to peep up, but how old is your daughter?

Weightloss comes more easily to those who are younger (as a woman nearing the 30 mark I have to tell you, the last time I lost weight I was 18 and it nearly fell off on its own!).

If it helps, I'm a lil envious too.

31 says in the 3rd post why be envious of a 2500 deficit per day! It's unhealthy and probably destroying her
from the inside out

Yeah that's not sounding very healthy at all! That's like Biggest Loser numbers, and the ones pulling those numbers start out much heavier than your daughter (and even then I dont' really see their losses as healthy).

Good for you for losing 35 pounds!!

That's kinda scary actually. And, truly, do you think she can keep that up on a permanent basis? What happens when she starts to eat again? Or when her body's store of vitamins runs out? Will she be happy skinny... but with clumps of hair falling out, brittle skin, etc?

Losing weight slowly, carefully, and normally is the way to go for me!

as it is for any normal sensible person!

I know it sounds crazy....but she is very active ...working many hours on her feet in a city hospital. Alot of the doctors there were wondering if there could be something wrong because of the rapid weight loss...nope...the physical checks out OK. I have told her that she needs to make sure that she eats nutrient dense food. She isn't on diet pills either....just alot of coffee. She has never been on any diets before. The thing is she isn't counting calories, or carbs, or anything...she is just waiting till she is really hungry and then eating just enough to be comfortable. Personally, I am going to try that too.

It truly sounds like she meant "not eating" quite literally. It is not outside the realm of possibility for an adult to develop an eating disorder. No matter how close a person is to their mother or their doctor for that matter if they have disordered thinking and eating, they aren't going to be truthful.

It's easy to envy people who seem to be losing weight quickly or easily. I can see where it would be tempting to think rapid, major weight loss is "success" and to be emulated. We do have a prevailing wisdom here though that fad diets, starvation or disordered eating isn't healthy.

Marigrace, of course you are an adult and we can't make you do anything but please be sensible! You have been successful in your weight loss, albeit slower than your daughter. You know studies have shown that slow, sane weight loss is the key to success in the long term.

I started dieting in 1986, weighing 165. I starved myself to get to 135 and there started my life of yo-yo dieting (lost 30, gained back 50!) I believe I permanently wrecked my metabolism and dieted myself to an all time high of 275 in Dec of 2009.

Slow and steady is going to help me repair my metabolism, learn to eat like a normal person, lose the weight once and for all. I can only wish for the same for you.