Hi everybody. I hope I'm posting in the right place to say hi, tell a little about my story, and hopefully get some much needed encouragement for the challenges I am facing. If not, I'm sorry!
I'm here because I have 100 lbs to lose. I never thought I would say those words again, because a few years ago, I almost did it. In 2006, motivated by a near-fatal illness I had recovered from, I decided I wasn't going to make excuses anymore and was going to change my life. At the time, I was fresh out of college, wasn't working, and had few friends in the area I was living, so I had 100% free time. I went to the gym 5 - 6 days a week, changed my eating habits, and over the following year I lost about 75 pounds. I was in the best shape of my life, felt fantastic, and was actually happy! Unfortunately, things came up. Work, going back to grad school, and starting a new relationship seemed to take up all my time, and I stopped going to the gym altogether. My eating and drinking habits also gradually went from healthy to terrible. Over the past 2 years I have gained back all 75 lbs + a few extra. It's funny how easy it's been to stay in denial. Telling myself, "I haven't gained that much," and avoiding scales and mirrors worked well for me! Yesterday I saw a nutritionist and was honestly shocked when I stepped on the scale.
I never realized how hard it would be to cope with undoing all the weight loss I had worked so hard for, but it is extremely depressing, which makes things seem so much more hopeless, and I am struggling to find the motivation to do it again. I tried, over the last year, to get back into exercising, but the person I am dating discourages it. We drink too much and eat badly, and this cycle of behavior has been very hard to change considering I am the only one who actually WANTS it to change. Fortunately for him, what we eat, drink, or how much never seems to actually effect his weight. I don't want to blame him, because I know it comes from a place of insecurity (it is not a bad or abusive relationship), but it is also very difficult to feel like I have absolutely no support from the people in my life and like "changing" myself will negatively effect my relationship. I looked around today and realized I don't even have anyone to call who can encourage me and help me in this. So I started to look into online communities to see if maybe this will help. I have stopped drinking (I was mainly drinking red wine but definitely too much and too often), and am going to try to change my eating habits. I am re-joining the gym TODAY. But its a long road and I just feel like I need some help here.
I'm sorry this is long and kind of depressing! But I look forward to talking to some of you and I promise I'm a lot more positive in general.
Thank you for reading,
Kris