Wow! I wasn't expecting so many responses. Thanks to you all :D. Trial and error is my middle name lol :^:. I had one site tell me 1950 and anoter tell me 1800...so I'll meet in the middle and start with 1850 and see what happens. That number still seems a little high but I'm definately not the expert here.
I've started a FitDay account so that I can track a little better.

sorry, that concentration comment threw me! There's a huge difference between dieting at 1300 cals and forced starvation. Most people can't sustain long term at 1300 cals and give up - yes they'll lose weight but it will come right back as soon as they go back to their normal lives. Forced starvation thru circumstances or war, well it's ridiculous to compare the two. Of course they become emaciated, as they were probably given 800 cals a day, barely enough to sustain life. Ugh I'm getting upset, sorry, I know you didn't mean anything by it so I'll shut it.

I gotta say, I started at 1200 and here three months in I feel like I could sustain this for life. There's no need for me to go back to the way I used to be. For me, my stomach adapted. The first three weeks were awful, but ever since then I've had no problem sustaining it at all. I don't even have to remember to eat slow or savor every bite or any trick of the trade. My stomach knows how much it's going to eat and that's 200 calories six times a day.

But I already know I'm weird. :D I never had binge problems or really any problems a lot of women had to overcome to get where we are today. I'm just fat because I got fat without any good excuses for why.

I did not mean to upset you....This is where I am comming from: I have been stuck at around the same number for quite some time, and feel like I have to do something, some folks think a stall could be caused by eating too little. I think that is possible, yet not probable in my case. I did not mean to be insensitive to your feelings.