I am reaching out for some positive thoughts.
These past two years have been really rough on my family. Lost some members, had some others get really ill. Thought the black cloud had finally went away. Came home to find out that my brother had a massive heart attack. He is in ICU right now. It looks like he is going to pull through. But, to be honest, I don't know how long he is going to last.
I love my brother and I honestly thought that he had finally clued into the fact that he has got to change his ways. With the exception of alcohol and illegal drugs he has every bad habit known to man. He eats too much (what he does eat is anything but healthy), drinks anything BUT water, smokes too much, does not exercise. He is beyond moribidly obese. I figured out a long time ago that nagging and harping does nothing for him. When he does decide to lose weight - he will only go for the quick fixes. He was lined up for the bariatric surgery - but now that he has had this heart attack - I don't see how they could even consider him as a candidate. His blood sugars were through the roof, they actually cheered when his blood pressure dropped below 200/160 - the cheering point was 199/139.
But, if you nag him - you just alienate him. So what do I do? I may end up flying home to help take care of him - they are not sure if they can even safely do surgery on him for the massive damage that was done to his heart.
How do you get through to someone like this?