That is one of the reasons I love this place. No one wants to see anyone go back wards. When a person does, we all rally together and tell them we are right behind them and they will keep going forward. No one is happy when someone else is unhappy. We have such a great group of people here.
That is so true. I don't see why be negative towards someone trying to better their LIFE! That makes absolutely no sense to me. I support anyone in any effort to better their life, especially weightloss. Universally it's something lots of people take on, but few people succeed at long-term, so I'd applaud anyone who would even attempt to lose weight.
I'm so happy because I have a new workout buddy, which is one of my guy friends. He's lost 32 lbs. so far which is awesome and I'm so supportive of him as he is of me. It's awesome because I know he won't ditch me after 2 weeks or try to sabotage my efforts. Unlike the women i've tried as workout buddies in the past.
It is such a shame that so many woman like to keep other women from doing better than they do. If you do better than I do, kick me in the butt and get me going lol.
Last edited by Shy Moment; 10-05-2007 at 06:05 PM.
I know I'm very sensitive about this, but I really hate it when women (or men, actually) trash women in general. In the original post, Trazey talked about one woman who undermined her efforts, but also talked about another woman who was unexpectedly very supportive. I think that insecurity is common in both men and women, and this is what causes some people to allow jealousy to prevent them from being supportive when others make changes for the best. It is NOT a characteristic unique to women, and I have found that more women than not are very supportive - witness this forum as the epitome of that.
Edit: This came out a bit harsher than I intended. I don't think that anyone was specifically trashing women in general, but some of the posts were suggestive that women were more guilty of being jealous and petty than men. It just reminds me of how people call women "catty," an expression that I detest because I think that it contains so much venom toward our gender.
Last edited by LaurieDawn; 10-05-2007 at 06:04 PM.
There are a great many wonderful woman here but we have to remember most of us came here looking for answers and support. I have found from what I see, hear and read, not really personally to myself. Woman are not as supportive to other woman as men are, or at least men aren't as nasty to woman as other woman can be. The term " catty " fits sometimes.
There are a great many wonderful woman here but we have to remember most of us came here looking for answers and support. I have found from what I see, hear and read, not really personally to myself. Woman are not as supportive to other woman as men are, or at least men aren't as nasty to woman as other woman can be. The term " catty " fits sometimes.
I wish to very respectfully and vehemently disagree with you. As a group, women are incredibly wonderful. Not to take anything away from men, whom I also adore as a group, but I have always found most women to be very caring. Just as an example - I write grant applications for a living, so I have worked with many domestic violence agencies. Most violators are men, and most of the staff in the agencies are women. Again, I'm not suggesting that most men are violent or abusive, just making a point that in this specific instance, it is clearly women (with the help of many good men) who protect and support other women.
I do greatly agree with you on most of those points. I was only talking about weight. I see it a lot and have read it here many many times. Woman just don't seem to get the support they need from the woman who are suppose to be the closest to them.
I could be wrong and will sure say that is a possibility.
I think our society has just about driven women crazy with anxiety about our looks, especially our weight, and unless a woman is very secure about herself when another woman loses weight it reminds us of our own shortcomings, and for some women that anxiety comes out as cattiness, jealousy, etc. A few years ago I lost 80 pounds (unfortunately I gained it back , plus some). I still had nearly a hundred pounds to lose, yet I had many conversations with women who were nearly half my size who anxiously wanted to know how I'd lost weight and get pointers. thye irony that they were asking a much larger woman to help them lose weight was lost on them!
Anyay, I'm glad you found support from another source when your friend let you down.
