Hugs to you Sandi :hug: I know that must have been hard to hear. Maybe by this time next year he'll be asking where the baby in your tummy has gone!

Oh Sandi! :hug: I know you were waiting for the shoe to drop on this one! I too, think you handled it great!

But how are YOU doing, now that you've had more time to process it???

Kids are curious people who are apt to say exactly what they're thinking or ask about what they are questioning. I believe you gave him a good straightforward answer, even though it hurt.

On a similar note, a good friend of mine was shopping in a department store a couple years ago when a young kid said something very loud about her weight. Just an open and brutally honest "That lady is big". Younger children do not know better. They don't necessarily equate differences with bad things (it's how adults they are around react to them that children get their clues). Nor do they always know when to just keep their mouth shut... they learn that in time. Needless to say my friend was mortified, but said she felt a million times better when the kid's dad said (almost straight out of a child rearing handbook)to the boy "People are all kinds of shapes & sizes, isn't that great?" And made a swift retreat.

oh that must have been awful ! i think i would have cried ... at least it was a child they mean no harm, they are so innocent. they dont understand... turn this negative into a positive use that as your inspiration ... play with your child more run around with them take em to the park keep active with them it will reinforce not only are you doing this for youself but for your family too !

Originally Posted by Faerie:
"People are all kinds of shapes & sizes, isn't that great?" And made a swift retreat.

What a fantastic reply - I'll have to remember that next time a child points something (weight related or otherwise) out.

I had my moment when my godson asked me while in line for the waterslide at the pool why I was fat & then proceeded to list all the people we know that are not fat.

Kids are just so honest!

Originally Posted by Lifeguard:
I had my moment when my godson asked me while in line for the waterslide at the pool why I was fat & then proceeded to list all the people we know that are not fat.

Kids are just so honest!

Ouch >_< I feel that pain.

((HUGS)) I know how much it hurts. Bailey use to tell me that I was fat. Id explain that its not nice to call anyone fat. With him being his innocent self he said "But its true." Your not alone, Ive BTDT. I remember how upset I was. But think of it this way.. your on the right path, your already losing weight. Soon he will be calling you skinny :)

My ds is the same age as Jacob and so I'm waiting for this one as well. I think he is noticing the differences in people's sizes as he once made a comment about somebody (we were not close enough that this person would have heard) and I really don't remember what I said because I was really thinking about this, that his next comment would be about me. I probably said something about it not being important what someone looks like. Well we know it is inevitable but painful just the same.

:hug:

Thats hard. I wish my older kids remembered me being thin, but they don't. In the last month, my 2 yr old has been saying to me every so often, "You're too big!"... I know she means I am too big FOR something (she says, Mommy get in my bath? Nooo, you're too big!" or "Mommy you're too big to go on the slide" but still...)

And then it gets worse...

Yesterday at school a boy was making fun of me for being fat out on the playground. "Your mom is so fat, she can't fit in her car". :( I was alone when Jacob told me the story. He was so kind about it, even saying I wasn't fat. I told him that I was, but I was also working on it, that's why I was counting calories and exercising. He handled the situation well.

I am so upset about this, I just want to cry. This isn't what I wanted for my life. :cry:

Oh, Sandi! :hug: It breaks my heart to read that. I think I would cry about that. And then I'd get mad and use it as further incentive. You ARE doing this.

And you can also take heart in having such a sweet sweet little boy.

Sandi, you handled that well. I know how you are feeling, but there is a silver lining in this.

1. You ARE changing your life - celebrate your success so far
2. Your son is learning how to deal with insensitive people - of which he will encounter many in his life
3. This was/is a great opportunity to help your son understand and help you break the "cycle" within your family
4. This confirms that you are doing a great job raising your son - he sounds like a wonderful young man

I know patience and perseverance are hard, but you hang in there girl! a BIG :hug: - you deserve one!

Sandi, my heart goes out to you. I know how terribly upseting this must be to you. But love, it doesn't have to stay this way, I know you know that. You have the power, the strength needed to change this. You're working on it. You're dealing with it and it's going to change. You're going to teach that dear boy, that anything is possible when one sets their mind to it. That nothing is insurmountable.

One day, Jacob's friends are all gonna talk amongst themselves about how good looking and beautiful Jacobs Mommy is. I know it. I just know it. :hug:

Oh honey....:hug:

Sandi - hugs to you! I can't say anything to you that these very wise ladies have not already said - BTDT.

Carol