I have one sister and I love her dearly. Three brothers. I had two sons, my brothers all had sons, my sister had a son. My sons had sons. Even our dogs and cats were males. Surrounded by men, I couldn’t wait until the day I had a daughter in law to go shopping with, to chat with, to do “woman” things. Didn’t get it. Got two dingbats that drive me crazy.

David finally broke it to us yesterday. He let Stacy come home. She promises to do better. One psycho, bipolar, totally self-absorbed DIL.

Then there’s the other one…Tina. Darryl started seeing her 20 years ago as a “friend”. He “felt sorry for her”. He and his friend got pregnant with twins and have been bickering and arguing ever since. They’re still married although I don’t know why. They haven’t lived together for two years. He has his girlfriends and she has her boyfriends. They did, eventually, give me a granddaughter and then proceeded to ruin her. She’s in the third grade and can barely read. She’s already failed once and they’ve been told there’s no way she’ll pass this year. She stays up all night and sleeps all day during school. She sits in front of the TV, munching Little Debbie Cakes and drinking soda and has learned to fend for herself. She misses at least one day a week of school.

Yesterday, Tina told me that she’s leaving for Disney World this morning. Disney World???? Why are you going to Disney World? Doesn’t Holly have school? She tells me she wants to take her to Disney World as a treat because I took the boys on a cruise over Christmas and she wants Holly to get to take a trip. She isn’t going to miss an entire week of school…only four days. They’ll be home Thursday. True, I took the boys on a cruise but they’re 18 years old, they live with us, and it was over Christmas Break. And I gave Holly boucoup bucks worth of goodies for Christmas. I said, “Why don’t you wait for spring break?” It’ll be crowded over spring break. I said, “It’s going to take you two days to get there, you’ll spend one day, and then two days to get home.” I know…that’s okay. She’ll still enjoy it. I said, “Tina, she really shouldn’t miss so much school. She’s already so far behind.” She says, “They already said she’s going to fail the year so it won’t make any difference.”

So then, two hours later, Tina is sobbing and crying to DS because her truck blew up and needs a new motor and it’s going to cost almost $400.00 to get one and she just doesn’t have that kind of money. So, she rents a super-duper van with a TV and all kinds of goodies to drive to Florida and, including the insurance, it costs her $395.00. For five days. For one day at Disney World. If she can’t afford $400.00 for a new motor, how can she afford $1,000 for hotels, meals, Disney World, and a van? And then, when she gets home, her truck will still be out of commission.

This whole thing is so stupid it’s beyond belief. Then Holly lets it slip…”Mommy’s taking her boyfriend with us.” Well, then, that explains it. Doesn’t it? It’s not about taking Holly on a trip at all. It’s about Tina and her boyfriend getting to take a trip and taking Holly along for the ride.

Really…I’m not that picky. I just want a woman in my life who has some measure of common sense, responsibility, and commitment to her family. Is that asking so much?

9:00 am – Splish Splash!

I’m getting ready to jump back up on that wagon. After next weekend’s outing with the girls, I’m prepared to come home and get back to eating healthy and exercising starting next Monday. I’m ready for it. I’m actually looking forward to it. I’m tired of eating junk and laying around. One of the things I hear about so often is how beneficial water is to weight loss. I don’t believe that. I know a lot of people do but I did some research on the topic a while back and here’s what I found out:

Top Ten Diet MythsMyth: Drinking lots of water will help you lose weight.

Fact: If your daily drinking habits consist of sweetened teas, juice drinks and sodas, then replacing them with water can result in consuming fewer calories, which can lead to weight loss. But simply upping your water intake will not, unfortunately, help you shed pounds…

Five Myths About Drinking Water – …Scientists say there’s no clear health benefit to chugging or even sipping water all day. So where does the standard advice of drinking eight glasses each day come from? “Nobody really knows,” says Dr. Stanley Goldfarb, a kidney expert at the University of Pennsylvania….

Dieting Myths – Four Common Dieting Myths Exposed – …We’ve all seen someone around the office or at the gym lugging around a gallon of Sparkletts in the hopes that drinking water will help them lose weight. While there is certainly nothing harmful about indulging in this diet myth, there is no connection between consuming water and losing weight…

Diet Blog – The Mythical Daily Water Requirement – 8 glasses – that’s what most people think they need as a daily requirement. Copious water intake is supposed to keep organs functioning properly, skin supple and body weight at bay. Nonsense! – say researchers from the University of Pennsylvania who conducted a study to test these theories (which will be published in the June issue of the Journal of the American Society of Nephrology).

ABC of Fitness – Staying hydrated is essential to keep the body in top shape, but those who hold on to the belief that drinking more water will keep the extra weight at bay are sadly mistaken. Yes, your stomach will feel fuller for a little while, but eventually, your body will still crave for food to satisfy its nutritional needs. Also, contrary to popular belief, drinking excessive amounts of water will not speed up one’s metabolism nor will it flush fat away.

I could go on but you get the point. I don’t drink a lot of water. I drink when I’m thirsty. I don’t drink soda or fruit juice. I drink coffee, I drink unsweetened tea, occasionally, I drink a diet soda. I drink water when I want a drink of water. I usually wind up drinking about 3 glasses of water a day.  When I’m trying to be good, I try to drink more but I think I’m done with that.  I don’t think I’m going to lug a water bottle around and try to force myself to drink it just for the health benefits. When I need a glass of water, I think my body will let me know I’m thirsty.  Anybody else got an opinion?


angela says 15th February @ 10:40

oh gosh Patty i’m so sorry to hear about your doozy daughter in laws! I don’t know how you contain yourself because I don’t know if i’d be able to! (hugs!)

I drink tons of water….I even have a 2L water bottle at work that i fill in the AM and TRY to drink throughout the day…I am not sure what good it is doing..just keeping me hydrated I guess!

shallweshrink says 15th February @ 13:18

I have three boys and have always hoped they would marry a nice girl who had a dead mother or something so I’d get a daughter all to myself. Sick, I know.

As for the water. This is gross, but here goes! My Grandfather died of colon cancer, as well as my ex husbands grandfather, so I try to make my son aware of what we can do to help prevent that. Studies have shown that getting the recommended amount of fiber (35g a day for men) can reduce the risk of colon cancer. So, we have a fiber rich diet. The thing about that is, if you are consuming that much fiber, you need something to help, err, flush it out. So water is really important in that aspect. That’s why we drink it! And to keep hydrated when working out and running.

There’s my 2 cents. 🙂

susan says 15th February @ 13:56

Patty, so glad you brought this up, because I had always believed that those 8 glasses of water were crucial and never questioned it until this morning when I read your post. I went on “WebMD” and found some interesting articles that backed up what you propounded.
Here’s the beginning of one of them:

Benefits of Drinking Water Oversold?
Researchers Say Evidence Is Lacking for Benefits of Drinking 8 Glasses of Water a Day
By Kathleen Doheny
WebMD Health News Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD
April 2, 2008 — The health benefits of drinking water, at least for already healthy people, may have been oversold, according to a new report. The findings will likely disappoint water-bottle-toting Americans and relieve those who can never seem to down those eight glasses of water a day, widely recommended for our health.

But there is nothing magical about those eight glasses, at least when it comes to proven health benefits, according to a new report. “There is no clear evidence of benefit from drinking increased amounts of water,” writes Stanley Goldfarb, MD, professor of medicine at the University of Pennsylvania, Philadelphia, and the senior author of an editorial on the topic in the Journal of the AmericanSociety of Nephrology.

I always thought my skin looked better when I drank a lot of water, but the article dished that too:

Claim No. 4: Drinking Water Improves Skin Tone
“From a quantitative sense, this doesn’t make sense,” Goldfarb says. The water you drink will be distributed throughout the body. “Such a tiny part of it would end up in the skin,” he says.

“It turns out one small study showed there might be an increase in blood flow in those who drink [a lot of] water, but no one has ever looked scientifically [to see if it improves skin tone].”

Thanks for bringing this subject up.

delitaagain says 15th February @ 14:24

Hmmm – no idea. I just know when I’m drinking coffee, tea, sodas, I can’t bring myself to drink water but when I get off the coffee, tea, sodas, I drink and like drinking water. Would be nice to know exactly how this does work. Right now my only drinking vice is hot green or herb tea 2-4 times daily, often two tea bags at the time. I do best when I don’t start adding honey… lol Glad to see you refocusing on you. Delita

brseay says 15th February @ 15:34

I didn’t realize that you had 2 DILs that were troublesome. I feel so bad for Holly to have such instability in her life, she is lucky to have you and DH.

As far as the water goes, I never drank a ton until I got w/my hubby. He had kidney problems as a teenager so he constantly drinks water so I followed suit. Now I actually crave water. Don’t get me wrong, I still generally have 1 diet soda every day and I like flavored carbonated water but plain, cool water is what I love. Yes, I pee all of the time which can be tricky when you’re teaching but fortunately my classroom is close to the bathroom.

But if plain water doesn’t turn out to be your thing it’s probably more important that you’re staying hydrated w/other healthy drinks like tea. Give it a try, see how your body responds and then go from there.

firefly says 15th February @ 15:44

Hey Patty,

Sorry about the DILs situation. I’m always here if you need a virtual ear to bend or shoulder to cry on.

And I get most of my “water” from tea and Coke Zero. Even Weight Watchers has changed their stance on water consumption this year. Now it’s beverage consumption. Yay – I can live on Coke Zero again!! Just kidding… sort of… ok, not really. I have a bottle of it on my desk right now!

Joy says 16th February @ 8:26

Wow ! I never realized that water did not really hold a lot of importance to weight loss.
Sorry about those pesky DIL’s! Man alive I have 4 sons! What in the hell-o am I in for??????

grabthebull says 16th February @ 13:34

Damn girl, whatcha got against water? Is Tina’s middle name ‘Water’? 😉


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