Hey girls. Sorry that I have been AWOL again, but things just seem to get more and more hectic in my life. I need to slow down and smell the roses! Speaking of blooming things, spring has definitely sprung around here. Bradford Pears and Japanese Magnolias are our sign that spring is near and they are in full bloom. Bradford Pears are everywhere and it is beautiful to see the mass of white. It was like they all bloomed in unison overnight. Of course, what usually happens is that everything will bud out and then we will have one more good frost that will kill everything. My favorite time is when the azaleas are all in bloom. I can't wait!!
Jan, I can't wait to see the blooming wildflowers and all of your plantings. When my ex-husband and I had our first garden, I was like a little kid. Being from the Delta, John had grown up with gardens. I, on the other hand, being a city girl had missed out on that. My daddy always tried to have a small garden in our backyard, but the squirrels and birds just wouldn't cooperate. When we got married, we lived on a large plantation so we had lots of room to plant. I would go home everyday at lunch and was always amazed how things seemed to grow two inches overnight, especially after a rain. My favorite garden was our fall garden. Our house was surrounded by cotton fields and in the fall I would sit outside by our garden and listen to the sounds of the cotton gins running while watching the sunset over the Mississippi River. Those were such peaceful and happy times!! I can't wait to meet you and your family this weekend. It's almost here!!
Liz, good luck with the lawyers. I can certainly empathize with what you are going through. I was divorced after being with my husband for almost 20 years, and another woman was involved. It's a heartbreaking thing to go through, but it will definitely make you a stronger person. I also gained a tremendous amount of weight AFTER my divorce (almost 100 pounds). Most women lose weight after going through a divorce, but food was my comfort. I also think that a part of me was doing it so that I wouldn't have to worry about dating...thus eliminating the possibility of getting hurt again. I didn't think my heart could take it. I eventually got over that feeling, but it wasn't easy to start dating again after being with the same man for so long. If you ever need to talk, I'm just a keystroke away!!
Texaslady, huge congratulations to your DD. I know this will be a huge weight off her mind. Now she can concentrate on her wedding. I will email you soon with my flight information. I can't wait to see you!
Carol, ditto to you. I'm really looking forward to this weekend, and I can't believe it's finally here. I went today and bought a cheap carryon so that I don't have to check my luggage. I have never packed light in my life, so we will see if I am up to the challenge. I just hope that I can lift the thing up high enough to put it in the overhead compartment. Maybe some nice, cute, muscle-bound guy will do it for me! Oh...and thanks to you and the others who were concerned about the tornadoes. Just to show you how hectic things have been, I didn't even know that tornadoes had touched down and that five people had been killed until reading your post and then checking the Sunday newspaper...that I hadn't even opened.
Kendra, it's good to have you back. I hate that you are feeling so tired, but hopefully the doctor will be able to help. It's a miserable feeling to want to be able to do things, but not have the energy. Congratulations on getting back on track after your tiny gain...and congratulations on getting the babysitting job. That sounds like it will be a lot of fun!
We are about to do maintenance on our network, so I need to sign off. Hopefully, I can finish posting in a few minutes.
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Well, that network maintenance ended up taking a whole lot longer than anticipated. I had to work until 8 pm. Someone even went and got pizza. I had plenty of points left, so I splurged and ate two pieces. It was piping hot...and tasted wonderful!
It is really late (or early depending on how you look at it). Yep Texaslady, I'm having another very late night...and I will suffer for it tomorrow I'm sure. I just wanted to finish my post because I know I won't have time tomorrow.
Rebecca, I wanted to tell you that I'm sorry you are having a hard time lately. My husband and I waited for several years before we decided to have a child. After all those years of trying so hard NOT to have a child, I guess I just thought it would happen quickly...but it didn't. We ended up trying for several years before I got pregnant, and those were some very difficult times...getting my hopes up every month only to be let down. It seemed like every woman in Mississippi was pregnant but me. Everywhere I looked there were women with babies. I was miserable. I know that none of that makes you feel any better, but I just wanted you to know that I can empathize with you. Just hang in there and concentrate on making your body as healthy as it can be so that you will be ready when the time comes.
NJNancy, I too enjoyed your analogy between our weight loss efforts and a war. Your words really got me to thinking about how I've been losing the war lately, but I've won so many little battles along the way. Your info about vitamins and supplements was very interesting too. I don't take anything now, but I definitely need too. I'm just not sure what to take. What kind of multi-vitamin do you take and do you take anything else besides the echinacea??
Saara, I've really missed you lately. I know you are super busy, but post and let us know how you are when you get a free moment. I know...you are thinking "what free moments??" How is your roomie doing on her first week of WW?? Did you ask her if she would like to join our group?? We would love to have her. As soon as I get back from Texas I'm going to start working on sending you the package we talked about. I haven't forgotten!
JOYce, your belated birthday dinner sounded absolutely wonderful...especially eating by the fire. How romantic!! I'm glad you are feeling better, but I agree with the other girls...don't overdo! Tell Linda hi for me. I miss her posts!
Hi to our other Nancy and anyone else I have missed. Our group has grown so much (and I love that) but I'm always afraid that I'm leaving someone out.
Oh...I almost forgot. My first week back OP went great and I ended up losing about 5 pounds. Of course, I always lose a lot the first week back. Anyway, I'm feeling better already...at least mentally. Have a great OP week everybody!
Good morning everyone! Happy Hump Day!
I swear, this weather- yesterday it went up to 60 and today we are supposed to get a little "conversational snow"!! The only conversation I want related to snow is "remember when?"!! Texaslady, congratulations to your dd on her thesis!!! I know you are so proud, and she must be thrilled! Can't wait till we're at that point too! Did she get to try on her dress yet? Liz, I thinking your idea of journalling feelings is great! It will also be helpful to look back on at times when you are struggling and see what you were feeling before and how you dealt with it! When my ex dh and I separated 6 years ago I gained quite a bit of weigh too, even though our separation was and is "friendly" with no 3rd party.I've always envied these people who can't eat a thing when they are upset!!! Stress makes me want to eat everything in sight! Good luck with your lawyer visit. I hope you can get things taken care of fairly painlessly. Kendra, I'm worried about you! You really need to see a doctor! Maybe you have mono or something! Whatever it is, you need to get it checked out! Janet, 5 pounds gone!! : Good for you!!! I think that's terrific! Wish I could follow your lead and get off this plateau!
I've got to run- I'm still not caught up at work, so I need to try to get in a little early. Hi to everyone, and have a great Wednesday!
The best thing about today is it is my last day at work this week. I know I have told you about the partners' rule that you cannot just take one day of vacation - but you must take at least two. So to get Friday off to collect Carol & Janet and drive to Jan's, I had to take Thursday off too! What a hardship! http://www.3fatchicks.com/ubb//lol.gif
Liz - Hope your visit with the attorney go? I also was divorced about 13 years ago after a 20+ year marriage - another younger woman was involved. But I found out later that she was only one in a string of them that had been going on for years! DUH! The wife is always the last to know! I am hear to tell you there is life after divorce - but as many of us know, it is so overwhelming at first. Especially those of us in the generation where you got married right out of school with no "me" time to learn out to be a grown-up! However, the whole experience has soured me and I have absolutely no desire to get involved again. I kind of like my life the way it is! I gained a lot of weight too, but that was another bone of contention in our marriage. I was always "too fat" for him - he is a string bean (and so is our daughter) who is exercise driven (so is our daughter!) - don't tell me there is no such thing as genetics! He's still a royal pain the butt - especially now that I have to deal around him with the wedding! Don't get me started! Enough of that.
Rebecca - Like Janet, it took us a long time to have a child. We were married 7 years and I had two miscarriages before she came along. It was shortly after the second miscarriage I got pregnant again with her. I wasn't even trying - but I wasn't not trying, either. I pray your time will come - it is frustrating when we want something NOW but life dictates otherwise. Something like wanting to lose weight....
Jan - Are you sure you are ready for a mini summit of the 3FC? Actually, now that I think about it, there really are 3FC coming to see you! Can you give me driving directions to your place. It looks like we take 10 to about San Marcos - but I need help from there. I guess I will print a Yahoo map today! Also e-mail me with your home phone number in case this big city girl gets lost in the country!
Carol - You made a funny! I kind of feel that way about snow too. I am crossing my fingers that our weather holds up for you guys. It was rainy yesterday morning but cleared in the afternoon to a gorgeous day - with temps in the high 70's. Looks like it is going to be that way off and on for a few days.
Janet - Huge congrats on the 5 pound loss! That's just wonderful. You go, girl! Our pears bloomed about 2 or 3 weeks ago - there are still some with blossems but most are already leafing out. The magnolias are also blooming and so are the redbud trees. Even my crape myrtles are putting out new growth. The downside of this is that the news last night was talking about how bad the tree pollen is now and how much worse its going to get. If anyone coming to Texas has pollen allergies - bring your pills!
Kendra - how did your doctor appointment go? I didn't even think about Mono - leave it to nurse Carol to come through on that one!
Thanks for the good wishes on dd's success. For those who asked, her Master's Degree is in Environmental Geology - her Bachelor's was in Environment Science. Pretty neat for a GIRL - Huh? Now all she has to do is fight her way through the male dominated oil industry to get a job doing what she wants!! That will be much harder than her thesis.
Saara- what's up in your life? Keep in touch.
Nancy(s) - same with you guys! Time for me to go - last time this week! I haven't check my e-mail yet this morning, but I need for Janet to send me her flight schedule - I already have Carol's.
Jan, congratulations on your 1.2 pound loss!! That must get you within 5 or s pounds of goal, right? Texaslady, sorry you had to take 2 days to get one, but I know you can probably use the down time! Also, gives you time to get psychologically prepared for your drive and taxi service Friday!! http://www.3fatchicks.com/ubb//lol.gif I'll try to call you tonight, but if I don't succeed, remember you were going to give Janet and me your cell phone "just in case"- if I didn't give you mine already, let me know!
Well, I had to leave work late this morning to do my grandma thing and pick up sick baby at sitters and run him to the doctor. It's not his ears this time- just a cold and/or teeth. He was up crying most of the night, my dd said, which is definitely not like him. I was so glad I didn't run into my orthopedic doctor- here I am not supposed to lift over 10 pounds, carrying and lifting a 23 pound baby, his 10 pound diaper bag and my purse, and dragging him in and out of the car seat. I'm gonna pay for it, I can tell already, but what can you do?
Well, it's chore time. I'll talk to you all later.
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Just a quick note to let you know that everything is OK. Big day tomorrow: the peace talks. So that's why I haven't had the time to post, I've been getting prepared... also I've been studying for a test that's coming up. Today was payday, looking at my paycheck made me smile. Maybe I'll run into the store before the negotiations tomorrow and buy some pants that actually fit right. Another pair is getting way too big.
Well, I really need to get some sleep. I'll post more on Friday, since tomorrow will be a long day, so I might be too tired to post.
I am so excited for all of you who are getting together this weekend. I was reading Kudzu's post and loving her descriptions of the magnolia's and life in the south. I am they type of person who loves to "visualize". I closed my eyes and imagined sitting on a porch with all those flowers....the summer heat...the sweet smell in the air.
Sometimes I know my "visuals" have no base with reality but it doesn't stop me from enjoying it. So when I think of all of you in texas I am adding a campfire at night...steers mooing in the background...huge cacti...tumbleweeds rolling...and of course a very cute cowboy with a bandanna around his neck.
So have a great time!
I went back to my meeting this week (skipped last week) to face up to the music. I gained 7 lbs!. Must have picked up all the weight that everyone else has lost. (congrats to everyone who did. everytime I read about another ounce shed in this war I really do applaud) I know it is only temporary weight gain but it still was a good kick in the pants. The emotional journaling seems to be helping cause I now have two days op undermy belt.
Texaslady, I will check my collection of "interview" books for your daughter. They really helped me when I was changing jobs recently in terms of preparing for that interview. I have one that I especially liked but I can't remember the name of it right now but will check and get back to you. Is your daughter taking any time off before she starts looking?
Thanks to all of you who wished me luck with the lawyer. Actually the appointment is today. I'll keep you posted
Hi all! Sorry to be away, but have had to give workshops at different schools (out of town) every day this week; today is the last one, and tomorrow I can tackle the pile of stuff on my desk. Got home late last night, after trying to make a dent in it after the ws.
Texaslady, so glad all went well with your DD's thesis defense! Hope you're enjoying your day off; too bad the weather's so cold. (It's supposed to be better over the weekend, though!)
Kendra, have you seen your doctor about the fatigue? How is the babysitting going?
Liz, I hope all goes well with the lawyer today; I'm sure it will. And don't worry too much about that gain; the important thing is that you're going back OP, and you'll soon have that off, and more. Hang in there!
Carol, have never heard that term, "conversational snow." Guess that means it's just enough to talk about? Are you getting some snow now?
Janet, five pounds, that is WONDERFUL!
Saara, hope you're enjoying the peace talks today! That sounds so exciting.
Hi to Rebecca, JOYce, Nancy in TC, and NJNancy. Sorry for such a short post, but am already running late to get to that workshop ... Have a great Thursday, everyone!
First I want to thank you all for your kind words and support. You all are the very best and I am so glad that you are here!
I missed my meeting yesterday, wasn't feeling up to par and didn't want to drive and hour each way to go if I was feeling under the weather. So, my dh, being my biggest cheering section, suggested we have a small meeting (just the two of us) when he got home from work. We talked about why I want to lose weight, why I will succeed, my goals for the new month and then we made a wish box. I put in things I would like to get when I reach certain goals, and when I do, I can get what is on the card. It was fun! And he also told me why he is glad that I am losing weight. Mostly, because it makes me happy. So I got my meeting, in a sense.
Well I just wanted to say Hi and thanks. I am going to go enjoy the weather. Yep, we have sunny skies and it is about 22 degrees!! Having a heat wave!!
Talk to you all later,
This above all: to thine own self be true...
This morning, as I was driving in the pouring rain in rush hour , I remembered that I forgot to tell y'all the open sunroof story. Hmmm...remembered that I forgot...that's not very good grammar, is it?? Anyway, I'm afraid that Carol made it sound much more interesting than it really is. For the girls who are new posting here, I live pretty much surrounded by woods and bodies of water. There's a huge reservoir and creeks all around me...so I have lots of creatures. I won't bore you with the "3 ft snake behind the mini blinds on the french door in my daughter's bedroom" story...but back to the open sunroof story. During a certain time of the year, we have lots and lots of tiny green tree frogs. They have always fascinated me, especially those tiny little suction things on their feet. Do you call them "feet"?? One time I accidently stepped on one, and you should have seen me trying to nurse it back to health, although it was pretty much a lost cause from the beginning. Not much contest between big ole me and a tiny tree frog. Why can't I tell a story without elaborating on every little detail? http://www.3fatchicks.com/ubb//dizzy.gif Anyway, one night I left my sunroof open, and when my daughter and I went to the car to leave the next morning there were a gazillion tree frogs in my car. Okay, maybe not a gazillion but there were a LOT. It is funny now, but was NOT funny then...although my daughter loved it. See...I told y'all it was boring!
Liz, good luck today! How long were you married? It's a difficult thing to go through no matter how long you were together, but I was just curious. I liked how you said you get mental pictures in your head when you read the posts. I do the same thing. There really is a peaceful "slowness" in the south, and I miss those days when we lived in the delta. I took the time to appreciate all the little things that I never seem to have time for anymore. I wish you were joining us for our get-together, but hopefully we will do it again and you can join us then. You, Texaslady and I can talk about our ex-husbands...or on second thought, maybe NOT!! Don't worry about those 7 pounds either. I'm sure you will lose them in no time. It seems that I can gain that much weight overnight sometimes if I blink wrong.
Rebecca, what a wonderful husband you have. I don't know of many husbands who would have suggested having your own meeting. I know it will be very helpful having his support. I especially loved what he said when y'all talked about why he was glad that you were losing weight. When I read what he said about it making YOU happy, I got tears in my eyes. You just don't know how lucky you are to have such a supportive husband...or hopefully, you DO know.
Well, I'm in a talkative mood today in case y'all couldn't tell. I think I'm starting to get just a wee bit nervous about tomorrow. We're supposed to be having thunderstorms tommorrow too, and that does NOT thrill me. Everything will be fine though, and I will just use the time to meditate about how I'm going to lose all this weight.
One more story and then I'm going. Something just happened that just chapped my (fill in the blank). There were three men working outside my office on something in the ceiling. This girl came out of our break room and was walking back down the hall away from these men. A cute, little tiny petite blonde. I just happened to look up and this one man was just standing there watching her walk completely oblivious to what his co-workers were doing or saying to him. As soon as she went through the door, he shook his head and made some comment about her (I couldn't really hear). I'm not sure why that pissed me off so bad. Maybe it was because men can be pigs...or maybe it was because men don't do that when I walk by anymore. It always made me uncomfortable even when they DID do that to me, but maybe deep down I'm thinking how it would be nice to at least have someone notice again as I walked down a hall. I'll have to go ponder that.
Have a great Friday AND weekend. Don't forget to say a little prayer for me about 10:20 Friday morning...and then again about 5:10 Sunday...and Carol too! Right now I'm going to go "ponder" that cute cowboy with the bandana around his neck that Liz was talking about.
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I have a tree frog story too.
My dh has a favorite fishing hole in Idaho, we used to stay in a little lodge there, that had converted mobile homes for cabins. One year they said that they had had a problem with the little frogs, but thought they had them all out of our cabin. WRONG!!
The girls squealed when they found them in the beds and bathtub as they were unpacking and settling in. we were very careful walking around, and shook the blankets before climbing into bed,etc...
In the middle of the night, I felt something on my backside... you should have heard the shrieking and seen blankets flying etc!!! It was my dh's hand brushing across me! http://www.3fatchicks.com/ubb//lol.gif
Liz good luck at the lawyers. I love your visualizations of the magnolias, etc!
Someone asked me about Linda, I don't know why she is no longer posting. I haven't really talked toher in about a month. She has been gone to Colorado, to help with a family matter. We have e-mailed some, and sheis having a great time... I suppose since she is on Lifetime Maint, that she might be on a different thread, if anywhere. she is coming home this weekend, and we will have lunch next week, hopefully.
Must go and get to the post office, to mail dd's bday present to Spokane!
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Good afternoon, girls! I don't say THAT very often now, do I? Yes, I am off work and at home right now though I have been running around doing errands all morning. I came home to eat lunch - WW taco soup - yum! Going back to Liz' ponderings about how eating habits have change, I will have you know I walked right through that food court at the mall without a second glance - well, maybe just a little one! It smelled so good, but I knew I would blow it if I stayed. So I drove all the way back home. You can bet I wouldn't have done that "in the old days".
Liz - I love your visuals! But I don't think you will find too many tumbleweeds and cacti in my part of Texas! We do have lots of those cowboys, though - even more right now so since the rodeo is still in town! And believe it or not, even though I live in Houston suburbs, we have cattle scattered here in there between subdivisions so we do hear a few Moos once in a while!
Rebecca - You truly have a fine man to call your husband. How sweet of him to be so supportive of your weight loss efforts! Sounds like a gem of a guy to me! Its easy to see how much he loves you. You're a lucky girl.
Janet - You read my mind! After reading your post yesterday I though "darn, she forgot to tell us the sun roof story!" I knew I could wheedle it out of you this week-end, but I'm glad you remembered to come back and tell it. Also bet you are a little more careful about closing the sunroof these days! http://www.3fatchicks.com/ubb//lol.gif How did you get them all out of the car? Talk about a visual image!!
Saara - Hope the peace talks go well today. You girls figure out how to solve this mess, OK?
Liz - Actually my dd already works for a oil company. She has been doing her masters study at night, part-time. She would like to stay where she is but is having a hard time getting someone to let her join their environmental team - they all want to make her a geologist instead. If that's the only option they give her, then she will look for another job elsewhere.
Jan - You have had another busy week, don't you? Heard anymore about your teaching again?
Girls, the weather here is just crummy today. Its lightly raining and is about 53 degrees. Supposed to rain tomorrow too (Sorry, Carol & Janet!). Its OK. We will have a good time anyway. Wish everyone could join us this week-end. But we will do this again and maybe we can get a few more to come along. I was looking around for some photos to bring and share. I am having a hard time finding one of me pre-WW (72 pounds ago). That's not too surprising when you think about how hard I tried to stay out of range of a camera lens during those days. If someone did capture a picture of me, I threw it away when I saw it cause I looked so awful. I am still searching, though.
Joyce, Nancy (both of you!), Kendra - How's it going? Let us hear from you.
Think I will go back out and hit a couple more stores. I did go by the bridal shop to check out dd's dress and make an appointment for her to come try it on to see how it fits and to take it home. It is so beautiful - just gorgeous! Pictures of the dress just do not do it justice. It is so much prettier.
We will go get it next Tuesday after work.
Kendra - That's WONDERFUL!!!!! http://www.3fatchicks.com/ubb//spinning.gif
You go, girl! And the 180's to boot! I can't wait until I get there!! I am so proud of you. We are so sorry you can't come this time around - but promise you will make it next time, OK?
Can't stay - just wanted to congratulate you on a job well done!
Hi y'all! I hope everyone's looking forward to a great weekend!
My bags are packed, and my flight to Tx leaves at the crack of dawn. I'm nervous about the flight, but so looking forward to meeting everyone!!! Saara, how did the peace talks go? Congratulations on the loose pants, and have fun using your paycheck to buy new ones!!!!! Liz, how did things go with the lawyer? It sounds like you have a good healthy attitude about the 7 pound gain- you got yourself right back on track and op! Jan, you've been a busy lady this week, as usual! Yup- "conversational snow" is just enough to "ooo and ahhh" at but not enough to interfere with anybody's life or day- a little on the grass and trees, but nothing on the roads. My kind of snow, if we have to have any at all! Rebecca, what a terrific, supportive husband you have!! You are one lucky lady! KendraCongrats on dropping into the 180's!!! Janet, I'm pretty nervous too- still worrying myself to death that I'll be seated next to a perfume wearer who will set off my asthma. I don't know if I'll ever learn to enjoy flying!!! I liked the image of you nursing a tree frog back to health- or attempting to!! <IMG SRC="http://www.3fatchicks.com/ubb//lol.gif"> Joyce, I sure wish you were joining us this weekend too!!! We'll be thinking about you, though. I'm glad Linda is doing well. Texaslady, I wish you could have arranged for sunshine in your fair city for our arrival! But liquid sunshine will have to do!
Well, I'd better get going. Have a good weekend, everyone.
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