Yes, counseling is the first step. Why not try shopping for healthy, yet calorie dense foods such as avocado and EVOO, Greek Yogurt (not the fat free type). This way if bf offers to make you something you will know that it is something for nourishment and health, not something to feel guilty and afraid about. Good luck. Let us know how you are doing.
My goal for 2014 is Fifty Pounds in Fifty Weeks began Christmas 2013