hey there, gnoff!! well, you know you're making a huge step here. Now, about your mother. ummmm. have you considered moving forward WITHOUT her support?
and here's what i mean by that: you love her, she loves you. she wants the best for you and she's worried. you've done your research [right?] and made your decision. Is there anything that she can say that'll change your mind? if there is, then you're not ready for the surgery. But if there isn't A THING she can say to change your decision, then, IT'S YOUR DECISION and you can move forward without her support.
doesn't mean she won't worry about you, but this decision is yours to make, to own. And, as we've been discussing on another thread, RELATIONSHIPS WILL CHANGE. and so it starts.
which gives me a great segue into the 6-month waiting period. this is not only to show the insurance company that you can stick with a plan, but more important to show YOURSELF that you can do it. And you can use this time to examine what motivates you to eat, the emotions that you tame with food, and start figuring out how to live so very differently.
hope this helps - and i'm really glad you've joined us
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weight at gastric bypass [Jan 29, 2002]: 409
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weight for plastic surgery: 200
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