So I am excited that I got my date for October 8th and of course my husband knows and my best friend knows and they are both very supportive and on board...however... I haven't told any other family members
Here's the thing: I haven't told my mom because when you tell her something..its not like you tell her and then she is like "oh i support you" or "well its your choice"...She will ask 1000 questions and throw in several of her opinions for good measure and she pushes you to forgoe your opinion or plans for hers.
In the past, when I was 16 and I was offered surgery as an option for weight loss, from a specialist in town(the wait list was only 6months long at that time) She refused to even consider or listen to the Doctor, even though the surgery would be covered completely under BC medical. So if she wasn't interested in it then, what makes me think anything is going to be any different.
Point is: I can't tell my Dad either because my parents have a rule that they keep no secrets between each other. So i can't tell him and say "dont tell mom".
Of course the other thing is..I dont want to tell anyone else in my family besides my parents because I guess i feel ashamed in a way that my lifelong battle with weight loss, has come down to needing to do something so drastic as surgery..
Thoughts? How do you handle family members? And what do you do about all the people in your life who dont agree with your decisions? Im afraid to tell anyone because I know some people are so against it. I don't want to be judged .