Soooooo...........Yesterday was my required psych eval before bariatric surgery. UGHHHHH! I have seen other psycologist before. we started discussing my parents divorce (I was 17). And the issues surrounding it and the "fallout". In a nutshell, my dad basically abandon me to go live his new life. He "came out". Before he left he maxed out all te credit cards. He filed bankruptcy on his business. He left my mom with A LOT of bills. He also drained my college fund (roughly $20k). Also for the 5 years prior to the divorce he told me my mom didn't like me. she worked night shift, I went to school during the day and worked evenings and weekends so we never really spent much time together. He also told her that I did not like her.
I was devestated! I was angry with my dad and deressed. We didn't tak for several years. I became deeply depressed and YES I saw a counselor.
We worked through our issues and have a pretty good relationship now. I can't change what happened in the past. I do not dwell on it, but I haven't forgotten it.
So this Psycologist now says I have anger issues, and need to see someone to sort out my past. I REALLY don't have anger issues. Yeah when I think about all that was done it hurts, it probably always will. And quite honestly if he wants to know what anger issues are he shold have seen me 30 years ago. I am not opposed to seeing someone. I just don't think I have any more to sort out. My dad was not the father I deserved, he did some awful stuff to my mother. But all the counseling in world won't change what happened. He is who he is, I love him because he is my father, as a person I have little repsect for him. Life moves on.
Also this Psycologist began to talk down to me and treat as if I lacked intelligence, once he found out I did not complete college. I did not complete college because there was no money. NOT because I am STUPID! If I choose to talk to someone it can't be him....that would be futile! I think he's an idiot!
Sorry just had to vent! Oh how I hope this doesn't hold up my surgery!!
Thanks for the chance to vent!