I had lap band surgery about 2 years ago, I am now at 168, I lost about 130 lbs (my goal~
I am getting married in 3 months to a really amazing sensitive guy whom I love very much
Because of religious beliefs, we are restricted from any sort of physical interaction until we are married (that means no sex, kissing, hugging, hand holding, even high fiving is out of the question) yes yes we screwed up like 2 or three times and made out a little bit but he hasn't seen me without my clothes and I am terrified for the day that he will.
My problem is all my excess skin. I'm so embarrassed by it and embarrassed for him to see it on our wedding night. My arms, thighs and breasts are not so great, but my tummy is the worst. We talked about abdominoplasty and he said he will support me and love me no matter if I choose to go through with the surgery or not. Now I found out the surgery aside from not being covered by insurance, takes about a month(?!) recovery time altogether.
I'm in full time graduate school as well as doing full time fieldwork and I don't have time to take a MONTH off from everything. So I think surgery is out. I'm now on a mission to accept and love my body as it is.
Any tips? I feel so lonely. I want to buy lingerie for our wedding night but I feel like my tummy/skin will just roll out over whatever I get. I just want to like the way I am. I worked so hard to be physically healthy. I feel like I'm at such a loss.