well, i had my now-annual visit with the surgeon on wednesday, and actually saw the nurse practitioner. the doc has apparently gotten too busy to see everyone who's doing well. not a big deal because i truly believe that NPs actually pay more attention.
but that's not really the point of these ramblings. i did manage to grab the doc for a couple of minutes, and we had an interesting conversation.
let's face it. those of us who have gotten to the point that we need wls generally have trouble taking care of ourselves. we take care of everyone else, we ignore our own needs. some folks really do take good care of themselves. and believe me, i'm not going to even touch the various reasons this happens.
but the doc is amazed at the number of people who, despite being told 'the rules' [no carbs, and that means no juice too!, lots of protein, lots of water, exercise, vitamins] insist that they 'can't' after the surgery. he says that everyone is told 13 times that the lap incision on the left side will hurt because that's where the stomach has been cut and stitched. and despite this, 40% of the patients call to say that it hurts, there must be something wrong, and they're going to the ER.
yes, it hurts. but for me, at least, there was no bleeding, so i figured it was OK. maybe i'm just too dumb????
he's absolutely baffled by the effort people put into getting TO the surgery, and the LACK of effort they put into it afterwards. when i raised the issue of having trouble taking care of ourselves, he basically threw his hands in the air and said that they're just surgeons... they can't fix everything, and that's why they refer to psychologists who specialize in eating disorders. his point is that the help is there, and people just have to be motivated to get it.
he said that i had 'found god' and was doing just great and he didn't understand why others couldn't do it as well. i don't really have an answer, except that I had held onto the promises he'd made before the surgery. first, he promised me that if i followed the rules, this would work. he also said that the first three months would be difficult, but it wouldn't last. and he was right. he also said that after a year, i'd be able to eat pretty much whatever i wanted, in tiny amounts, and he was right.
but apparently there are a whole bunch of people who give up during those first months because they figure that this is the way it'll be for the rest of their lives.
and it's not!
so, i gave him a kiss on the cheek and told him he needed a vacation. and that he could call me anytime to cheer him up.
so, what do you all think??? just wanted to share...