So, I was talking to my mom last night about the arrangements for watching the kiddies while I am away.
I told her that dh and I told them mommy was having tummy surgery but it would be okay. We didn't say it was to help mommy lose weight, because they don't see mommy as fat.
My mom proceeded to tell me that "The only person that thinks mommy is Fat, is mommy"
What a crock! ! !
Let's go to the 'way back machine' and check out some past examples:
I was 12 years old and my parents put my on a liquid diet and made me bring the powder to all the parties I was invited to and made sure they called my friends parents to make sure I had my 'shake' instead of cake.
I was 16 and my mom would drag me screaming to the scale every night for a 'weigh-in'.
My parents would serve ice-cream (2 scoops) to the other kids in my family, but only 1/2 scoop to me, because "Amy is too chubby".
My grandma (when I was 11) came to me and patted my round tummy and said it looked like I was going to give birth to an elephant.
My dad told me no one would ever want to marry me because I was fat.
I could go on, but these are just some of the myriads of 'highlighted weight related activities' that went on in my house.
I've spoken to my parents about all of this years ago, they deny most of it, (my dad did apologize to my DH - not me - about the marriage one). My siblings on the other hand were there for most of this, I was teased by them as well. But, they all know that they have the fat-gene. My sister was anorexic, my brothers did drugs...they stayed thin til they got clean...then the fat gene appeared.
Soo....No mom, I am not the only person who thinks I am fat. It's been instilled in me for many many many years.
Therapy session is over.