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Old 02-19-2009, 06:16 PM   #1
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I am in the last month of my 6 month diet and I litterally have NOT lost weight at all. I have exercised, I have eaten LESS and I have eaten MORE. I have eaten healthy and I have only managed to go up and down the same 5 pounds. Last month I had lost 4 pounds and now I gained them back. I was in tears in my drs office when I reported my weight, I could not tell her my Bulimia is going full force lately from stress and that I know if I dont stop it I will not only end up wiht bleeding ulcers but they will KNOW when they do the scans of my GI tract before approving me.
So now I am not only fighting to lose weight, to exercise despite amaxing pain lately but also fighting just to keep my food down. It has gotten so bad that if I eat more than 6 or 8 oz at a time I feel like I HAVE to vomit, it is not just mental it is back to being a physical need along with the horrible burning in my stomach which just makes it worse.

I am terrified that if I dont lose anything Medicare will deny me and make me do another 6 months and at the rate my knees are deteriorarting I dont think I can make another 6 months. I can't even tell my mom and grandma how bad the bulimia is getting and how hard it is to fight it. Some of my friends know and now threaten to go to the bathroom with me after meals when we eat out somewhere. I also wonder if the bulimia is not part of my my legs feel so weak and sore.

Anyway I just needed to vent, thanks.
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Old 02-19-2009, 06:28 PM   #2
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I'm not sure what your diet consists of- but have you tried cutting back on carbs? Not cutting out- but cutting back? It's hard to judge what's the problem without knowing what your diet is like.

And do you do any weight training for exercise? I find cardio does very little for me but weight training seems to work better. And weight training isn't as high impact as running is on your knees
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I am so sorry that you are in so much pain both physically and mentally. From your post you seem to know yourself very well and that your Bulimia is at a problem point. How did you deal with it before? Do you have a counselor or specialist in that area? If not it might be a good idea to look for one. Bulimia is a difficult problem do deal with.

Do you have other outlets for stress besides food?

If your knees are hurting you have you tried exercising in water? This is very helpful for very overweight people or people with injuries.

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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time....No matter how much you have to lose, losing weight is the most frustrating thing ever. You are not alone!

Have you ever tried weight watchers? I recently started it. I've also gained and lost the same 20 lbs for the last 10 years or so. My body fights me every step of the way, and my loss has been slower than some other people's, but since starting weight watchers I actually have hope that I'll be able to do it this time. It's not always a quick process, but I've found that the "quick fixes" tend to reverse themselves pretty quickly. At first, I didn't want to spend the money to do WW, but after thinking about the fact that I easily spend that much and more on eating out every week, I decided that I was ready to spend that money on my health. Here in Canada, it's only about $16 a week, or less if you buy a package (I bought the 12 week package, and plan to buy another when I use up those weeks..) It's the best money I've ever spent.

The best thing is the support. My leader has been really great- when my weight loss was slowing, she helped me figure out what the problem was. Just going to the meetings really helps me stay focused on my goals, and helps me remember that I'm not alone.

Finally, as hard as it is, please talk to someone about your bulimia... It will not help you reach your goal- In fact, your body could be holding onto weight because it's not getting enough calories or nutrients...PLEASE talk to your mom and/or grandma asap. You deserve to be healthy and live a long, happy life!

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I also wanted to second what Kodama said- Aquafit is great exercise and very easy on the joints.

I also just tried a new exercise- boxing/air punches. I didn't even move my lower body, and after doing it for a while, i was really tired. Maybe you could try something like that?
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Hang in there.

Does your surgeon know that you're bulimic? Are you seeing someone to help you deal with the bulimia?
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Old 02-19-2009, 08:23 PM   #7
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I'm sorry you are having such a hard time.

have you had the psychological study yet? have you talked about your bulimia?
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Old 02-19-2009, 11:50 PM   #8
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Exercise, eat right and do your best not to stress...it will all work out in the end, honey.

As for the 6 month diet, I lost 6 lbs the first month which my reg. dr was very happy with, showed that I could follow his directions...one of the pre-recs for our insurance...then I proceeded to ride the yoyo...gained the 6 back and then lost 4 and gained 3 etc. Dr. Oakley didn't care at all that I didn't lose weight just that I didn't gain much and our insurance covered me.

Spooky, the Bulimia could be a major problem. You really should tell the surgeon. Throwing up is so different after surgery...please be honest about it all. It could mean the difference between making this surgery work and your health failing afterwards. Please...please....please tell your drs!


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Old 02-20-2009, 12:02 AM   #9
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I am so sorry that you are in so much pain both physically and mentally. From your post you seem to know yourself very well and that your Bulimia is at a problem point. How did you deal with it before? Do you have a counselor or specialist in that area? If not it might be a good idea to look for one. Bulimia is a difficult problem do deal with.

Do you have other outlets for stress besides food?

If your knees are hurting you have you tried exercising in water? This is very helpful for very overweight people or people with injuries.

Best of Luck!

I have been exrecising in water, but even that hurts them, I know I need to do more but it is just hard to motivate and i also have a lovely dose of Seasonal Affective Disorder so I sleep ALOT this time of year.
I have started painting again but it is hard to do when I am feeling this down, I did do two small ones about pain.
I wonder if the reason I am so depressed is my chemestry is screwed up from the bulimia which I got over the first time when I got a bleeding ulcer and could not throw up without doubleing over in pain for hours. I can't let it go that far, so I am just trying to eat small protions and fighting to not throw up.
I am seeing a counselor and it helps but missed it this week since my car was broken and needed nearly $2000 in repairs, money I had to borrow from my grandmother which is just another reason I am down.
I mangaged to get through today without a bulimic incident but I also feel horribly down, about money, my car, my ex and my health. I just need ot get over it.
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Old 02-20-2009, 12:13 AM   #10
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According to your ticker, you've lost 19 pounds! thats amazing! Most people are just sitting around, wishing they could lose weight, yet aren't doing anything about it. You did something about it and lost.

Are you sure you aren't losing inches? Sometimes the scale doesn't budge, but you lose inches instead.

Have you tried maybe a diet delivery system? One that it's only the diet food around and less temptation to bite into something extra?
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Old 02-20-2009, 12:13 AM   #11
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Hang in there.

Does your surgeon know that you're bulimic? Are you seeing someone to help you deal with the bulimia?
No and if they find out they wont approve me. I had my bulimia pretty much under total control for over 22 years (I had it as a teen) and it has just gotten bad the last month. I do see my counselor and all and I am trying to stop just by not doing it, and resisting the urge. heck maybe trying not to give in by eating small meals will help me lose...LOL

Not only do i have to control it NOW but at the end of march they are doing a upper GI scope and I have got to get this fire I have been feeling in my gut (an ulcer I am afraid) under control.
If the only stress I was feeling was this it would not be so bad but I feel like I am drownding under it all. Being able to vent helps.
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Old 02-20-2009, 12:15 AM   #12
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I'm sorry you are having such a hard time.

have you had the psychological study yet? have you talked about your bulimia?
I have had my psych study done and at the time it was under control, if I can't get it under control in the next few weeks i will have to talk to my regular dr about ulcer meds and that will put my surgery on hold a while.
I am pretty hopeful I can get it controled cause I dont want to ruin my teeth and my health any more.
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Old 02-20-2009, 12:19 AM   #13
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According to your ticker, you've lost 19 pounds! thats amazing! Most people are just sitting around, wishing they could lose weight, yet aren't doing anything about it. You did something about it and lost.

Are you sure you aren't losing inches? Sometimes the scale doesn't budge, but you lose inches instead.

Have you tried maybe a diet delivery system? One that it's only the diet food around and less temptation to bite into something extra?
I lost that 19 pounds early last year doing basicly what I am now except for the getting sick, and then I hit a plateau and have not gotten under 440 no matter how hard I try.
I do intend to make darn sure it is not water weight next time I weigh at the hospital I really want to break 440 at least.

I need to messure I have my messurements at my grandmothers and on my computer somewhere, who knows maybe I am losing something.
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Old 02-20-2009, 12:31 AM   #14
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Exercise, eat right and do your best not to stress...it will all work out in the end, honey.

As for the 6 month diet, I lost 6 lbs the first month which my reg. dr was very happy with, showed that I could follow his directions...one of the pre-recs for our insurance...then I proceeded to ride the yoyo...gained the 6 back and then lost 4 and gained 3 etc. Dr. Oakley didn't care at all that I didn't lose weight just that I didn't gain much and our insurance covered me.

Spooky, the Bulimia could be a major problem. You really should tell the surgeon. Throwing up is so different after surgery...please be honest about it all. It could mean the difference between making this surgery work and your health failing afterwards. Please...please....please tell your drs!


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If I can't get this under control in 3 weeks (time for my next dr appointment) I will talk to them about it then dr O. until then it has only been a month and only the last 10 days have been making me feel out of control. They know i use to be bulimic and I am hoping if I can control some of the other stress in my life it will help with this, as well as the fact that if I can control this it should help my mental state since it throws my body chemestry way off.

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Old 02-20-2009, 01:25 AM   #15
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Yea.. definitely find those measurements. I know when I first did the whole lose weight thing back about 2 years ago, I weighed 320. there was a month I didn't lose anything in scale pounds, but I lost a lot of inches from all over.

Have you tried that arm cycle thing for exercise? I'm not exactly sure what it is called, but you sit down, and spin pedals using your arms.

More water you drink, the less water weight you have so keep on chuggin' that h20 down! Body goes into save every ounce of water mode if you don't drink enough, hence gaining the water weight.

Beautiful pictures by the way. Can't really tell, is it charcoal?
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