My daughter has never been an ounce overweight in her entire life. She weighed 4 lb 5 oz at birth. She's in her mid/late 30s now and is struggling to put on weight. She has fibromyalgia and some other issues.
I don't know why it's my fault. We had dinner at the table every night. I seldom did the fast food thing. (Family dinner can be quite difficult with 2 daughters PMSing at the same time). I made what I thought was healthy food. (It probably wasn't healthy for me with my weight, but they were growing girls w/out weight problems).
In her teens, she wanted to be 97 lbs. She didn't want to weigh 100 lbs. I told her that she should eat her meals, lay off the junk food and get her exercise. 97 lbs for her was unhealthy. She is only 5' 4" but 97 lbs is too little.
Now she's got teens of her own who are now going through this "I've gotta be rail thin" phase. She doesn't see it as healthy. YIPPEEEE! However, she's telling me that I didn't put my foot down enough and MAKE
I told her that there was no way I could follow her around all day and cram food down her throat. I provided food and she ate at home. What she did during the day was out of my hands.
What's a loving way to tell her to SHUT UP AND STOP BLAMING OTHER PEOPLE FOR EVERYTHING THAT IS WRONG IN YOUR LIFE!
Yeah, I'm a bit upset.