First of all I wasn't sure if I should post this here or in general chatter, having said this here goes:
Oprah's show today was on women who have had weight loss surgery and have lost a lot of weight quickly. These women including Carie Wilson, went on to have other "addictions" after losing their weight. 3 were alcoholics and one was a sex addict as well as an alcoholic.
And naturally she had on a psychologist who says these women never dealt with the issues of why they were so overweight in the first place and so they traded one addiction (food) for another. Of course they later on said this can just as easily happen to women who have lost weight the old-fashioned way, as I think most of us here are doing, myself included.
Now I've thought about my weight endlessly for the past 20 years and I think I pretty much know where it stems from. You know the usual stuff, molested as a kid and so on and so on. I never per se confronted the abuser and all as I didn't and still don't think that is necessary and it absolutely will never happen and yes I still hold a lot of anger for it taking place and anger at my mom for not taking better care of me and blah, blah, blah. So is knowing where it came from dealing with it?
Then of course there's this weird thing about me that I gained majority of my weight as soon as I got engaged. When I met my hubby I was about 129 and I steadily got heavier and heavier ever since. Part of me thinks this was to stop me from being promiscuous as I was getting into a commited relationship. I know that people who have been molested many times are promiscuous and that was the case with me, but thankfully not terribly if that makes any sense? I can't help but wonder if like the girl on Oprah who became a sex addict because she loved all that new found attention, what I will do with that attention. And it's crossed my mind before as I tried to figure out where all this weights come from. But I absolutely adore my husband to pieces and my family and there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING that I would EVER do to jeopardize that. This man has loved and adored me at 129 lbs and 287 lbs. But the show did get me thinking....
Just wondering what your thoughts are on this? And does anyone know anything of trading one "addiction" for another. And how are any of you having a "hard time" dealing with your weight loss, if that's not too personal? I just thought it would be a good conversation starter.
Well thanks for reading this looong post.