Ok... I am going to do my best to make a long story short, so here it goes... I dated a fabulous guy a few years ago for a very short time. Right after a few dates he obtained a job that involved him traveling extensively and he had to move out west. Needless to say I was bummed but it was just bad timing for us. Fast forward to this week...
I got an email from him letting me know that he has moved back into town and is now working for his companies headquarters since he got tired of traveling. Great! We spoke on the phone last night for over an hour catching up and having some laughs... Fantastic! Here's the thing... Three years ago I weighted about 20-25lbs less. I was telling him about becoming a yoga teacher, and being in the best shape of my life. I have never eaten so cleanly, done so much physical exercise and feel great. Then he says- well I remember that hot little body of yours. All I could think in that moment was Oh my god I don't have that hot little body anymore!!!! When we dated I could wear a size 4, but those days are looooong gone. I'm lucky if I can fit into a size 8 in some pants. Most days it's a 10. We have plans to meet on Sunday and I am so worried that when he sees me he'll be disappointed. I know he's so not the type of guy that would say anything rude, but nevertheless I'm scared.
And no I wouldn't want to be with a man that would be so shallow as to feel like if a woman puts on a few pounds that they suddenly become unattractive. I am just hyer-sensative about my weight gain and am insecure with my figure. I don't think that I'll every be a size 4 again, which I'm ok with since I have put on some muscle and I'm very strong. I would like to shed about 10-15lbs to feel more comfortable and confident. Any thoughts???
Just go and be yourself. Just relax. Don't worry about it. Be confindent in yourself and have a good time. If he likes you for who you are and not what you look like he wont care.
Remember this... life does not begin 5 pounds from now. Be comfortable in your own skin. If this guy is worth anything, he likes you more for your awesome personality than your hot body.
I bet you are in great shape. You've probably put on 20 pounds of muscle. Most guys don't notice something like that.
My niece complained that she had put on a lot of weight, but when I saw her last, she looked great. No longer the anerexic stick thin pole, she had muscle tone and a shape- so your guy might think the same thing too.
Calm down! Relax and enjoy yourself. Sure, you may look different. Chances are, he will, too...and is probably just as nervous. Remember that the way people act toward you is a direct reflection of how you present yourself. If you walk up and are ashamed of your body, then he will respond differently than if you walk up confidently (even if it's just a "show" at first). Try to take the focus off of how you've physically changed and pay more attention to what you've done in the last couple of years with your life - not your waistline!
Thanks everyone for the encouraging words. Yes I do have a sparkling personaility and if he doesn't see all the beauitful attributes then he is going to miss the boat.
Hold your head high, and show him what a strong, confident, successful, and beautiful woman you've be come (even if you don't believe it yourself, you can pretend ) He won't be able to resist ya!
If you've gained a little weight, I bet your rack is looking fabulous. A nicely low cut shirt with a little necklace to call attention to your cleavage is definitely in order. Give him a good, close hug when you meet, give him a little sample of the new real estate. Lean forward a few times during dinner to make important points in the conversation. He'll be putty by dessert.
I Am Freaking Out!!!!
Just have fun, he'll remeber all of ther other reasons he liked you also.
) He won't be able to resist ya!
So true about the putty heheh!
GLory - that's too true! Sometimes I miss my "puppies" being so big and beautiful 
I suppose there's always my Wonderbra! 