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Old 10-27-2005, 12:28 PM   #1
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Default To My Future Frustrated Self:

Well, I'm doing very well with my healthier lifestyle right now, but I've been down this road before and know that good habits can be broken -- fast. I'm scared of what might happen if I get off track. So, I wrote a letter to a potential me who's having problems, and I thought I'd share it with the rest of you. I hope I never need to read it, but I can't take that chance.

Well, hey there Future Self!!

You did it, didn’t you? You’ve ditched the plan and fallen off the wagon, haven’t you? You’ve maybe gained back some (a lot?!) of the weight you lost, and you’re feeling out of control right now. You can’t help but war with yourself over the food you feel you shouldn’t have, and you quit exercising. Or worse, maybe you’ve just totally given up, again. In fact, I know you pretty well, and I bet you’re feeling kinda sorry for yourself huh? Poor thing…

But that attitude will get you nowhere. QUIT IT!!!!!

You. Can. Do. This!

I want you to think back to why you started this whole journey in the first place. Recall, if you will:
• You weighed just under 300 pounds by your scale, and probably over 300 on any other scale. That’s a lot of you!
• You had a bad fall and were in a lot of pain and had trouble moving – do you want your weight keep you in stiffness and pain?
• What about your dad and his diabetes? Your MIL and her back? What about not being able to stand up from the floor with any kind of grace whatsoever because of your weight? What about just feeling like a hippo all the time?
• What about being able to do the things you want to do and buy the clothes you want to buy? Remember the great feeling of shopping in your closet? Don't you want to shop in normal stores? Take trips without worrying about flights and seat sizes and accomodations?
• And while we’re at it, let’s talk about food. I know you think that those Cheetos and Fritos and especially that Ice Cream and Macaroni and Cheese give you comfort, but they don’t. No one’s saying you can’t have them – you will have to moderate them. And believe me when I tell you that you LOVE fruit! And yummy veggies, and Kashi bars!!! You’re not giving up foods you love, you’re finding new food friends. And I bet you miss that feeling of control you had about those trigger foods too. Remember: you could walk away from the candy on the secretary’s desk EVERY DAY!
• And exercise! You didn’t always like starting, but you really liked walking to the music, releasing some stress, feeling what you body could do!
• Oh, and what about how you feel at the end of the day? Are you tired? Taking naps again? Well, when you ate better, you didn’t get so many low blood sugar dips!! You can be that way again!
• You’ve been in control of your health before and loved it! You can love it again!

Okay, I know, it’s not so easy. The problem is you think it’s all insurmountable. Something little happened, and you got off track, and then something else, and then it snowballed and pretty soon there went all the good habits right out the window. I know all about it, because it’s happened before!

So, how can you get it back? Baby steps! Remember?
• If you’ve stopped journaling your food – get back to it ASAP! Remember how it helped you learn good habits? And quickly! Get back to counting calories and fats and all. It’s easy and you actually liked it!!
• Take back your attitude about food. Keep asking yourself: is this worth it to me in the long run? Sometimes the answer will be yes, but often it will be no, and you’ll feel proud of yourself when you resist!
• And get moving again. You may not love it all the time, but it helps you so much!!
• Remember, you don’t have to make changes all at once. Gradually build in more healthy behaviors. But don’t wait for some mythical “better” time in the future. Take control now!
• Finally, go back to reading 3fc! You were inspired by those stories, and talking about your story helped keep you going too! There’s support there for you.

Remember your pledge to yourself: to be healthier at 50 than you were at 39 (or the fast approaching 40). That’s what’s important, not the taste of that food or the TV shows you're probably watching too much of.

And you can do it. I, more than anyone else, know you can!! It's easy: Eat Less. Move More.

Good luck!
Your healthier and thinning past self.

My 5 C's of healthy living: Commitment to conscious control, with the understanding that choices have consequences

Last edited by Heather : 10-28-2005 at 09:12 AM. Reason: fix typos! clarity. and a little revised content.
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Old 10-27-2005, 12:53 PM   #2
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Old 10-27-2005, 01:35 PM   #3
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Old 10-27-2005, 01:54 PM   #4
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Well that's definetly motivating!
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Old 10-27-2005, 08:57 PM   #5
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I think most of use need to sit and write that sort of letter! I can surely fall off the wagon big time!!!!! but the quicker I get back on it , the less damage done! Thankyou for the inspitation, and it also brings back a lot of fat memories!!!!! and yes, I definitley don't want to go back!

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Old 10-27-2005, 10:01 PM   #6
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Old 10-27-2005, 10:13 PM   #7
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Great idea and great letter!

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Old 10-28-2005, 05:08 AM   #8
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Really great post! Just keep getting back on the wagon!
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Old 10-28-2005, 08:39 AM   #9
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Amen to the sticky suggestion! This is great reading!
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Old 10-28-2005, 08:57 AM   #10
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Thanks for your feedback, everyone. Like I said, I hope to never need to read it, but want something ready just in case!

If I knew how to sticky something, I would! (I'm guessing it's a moderator dealio?)

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