Today I was out enjoying the day with two male friends of mine. At one point, we all sat down to take a break in the shade. This one woman walks by, wearing a bathing suit. She was overweight, but her suit was fine, she looked fine I thought. A lot braver than I am anyway - I wouldn't have the guts to walk around in my bathing suit!
My one friend makes some comment about how 'A woman like her should really re-think her bathing suit choice. Why is *she* walking around like that?' My other friend didn't hear him the first time he made this comment. I did, but I ignored him and continued talking to my other friend. Then the first friend makes that comment again! He wouldn't let it go. My other friend basically asked 'what does it matter to you? why are you even saying anything? There's nothing wrong with her suit.'
Now, I have 100lbs+ to lose, so it's quite obvious that I'm overweight, and I don't understand why he makes mean comments about overweight women, especially to me? Does he think I'm going to agree with him? Is this his way of telling me what he really thinks of me? Does he forget that I'm overweight, too?
I ignore him when he says something like that. Maybe I should tell him that his comments really bother me, but I suppose I avoid doing that because he's not a friend that I would ever feel comfortable with talking about my weight problem (obviously).
Do any of you experience anything similar with your friends? I must admit that this friend in question is generally considered by the rest of us as having poor social skills, but still...
Anyway thanks for listening!