Well another day over and I am not sad about that.
Last night I did talk to my friend about it. We went out and I told her what he said. She was more remorseful about the fact that she gave him the impression that she was coming onto him and said she did not know what she did. She is naturaly flirty. I still do not know what to believe but I am now at the point that that part is not bothering me. It's the I"I think" "I cant remember" "I blacked out" that is really bothering me. I pretty much told him it was over. This is not the first he has apparently blacked out. A few weeks ago he went out and I woke up about four in the morning and he was not home yet. I asked him the next day. He said that he fell asleep in his parents truck (they live about three houses from the local bar) and when later I said something about it in front of his parents he said he lied and he really drove the truck home and passed out our drive way. He told me that he didn't want me to be mad at him for driving home (which he never does) But when I was up at 4 in the morning i looked out the window and there was no truck! So than he say's he can not remenber how he got home or what happened. I have lost alot of trust in him. We have been together for 6 and half years and this is the first time I have felt that he may be doing something. I am not sure if he's trying to get reactions out of me or if he is really up to something behind my back. I guess I need to think alot.
Okay enough about me. (thanks for listening) I want to personally welcome everyone to this challenge and I know that we can do this!!!! Together with our support and knowing that we are all going through the same thing will make this much easier for us all! Welcome newbies and I am happy to see my friends here as well.
Boatingmommy. I am sooooooo sorry for your loss. I miss your posting! I can realte to the "porn" as you can tell, I know what it feels like to think that you are being betrayed. Hope it all works out and he has learned his lesson. Sucks that you had to deal with it because of the virus. But your back!!!!
Partshick and Praytherosary. Welcome, I look forward to getting to know you both. We would love to here more about you and that you will give us the movation we need as well.
Lissandy that must have felt great to have someone notice how hard you have been working. I loved it when people first started to notice. Good for you. Imagine in a few months?
Deenie - Its okay about the past couple of days. You are able to get back on track and we can help! I know we can do this. Even with everything else we have the ability to deal with alot (this is the reason that I have not eaten my own head by now)
I have been doing okay with food and with the water. Today not so good but tomorrow I will be a very good. Need something to focus on and this is the best for me right now.
Thanks again and I promise not to make this board my own personal therapy sessions and I will cheer up soon I promise.
Hello everyone, I'd like to join this challenge as well, aiming for 15 pounds in 6 weeks. As I'm new, and I've hardly met anyone, I'd probably better introduce myself. I'm a 23 year old female college student, no kids, no husband, no boyfriend. I've pretty much been fat all of my life, but I was diagnosed with PCOS and hypothyroidism in 2001--unfortunately, at that point I was also deeply depressed, and dropped out of school, losing my insurance, and thus, access to medications shortly thereafter. After about a year, I managed to pull myself together, getting back on my pills and going back to school--that's when I decided to start losing weight. I got my undergrad degree last fall, and I'm going back to start my master's in the fall--I really hope to get to know people on this website--I've realized that what I'm lacking in losing weight is someone to share it with ^_^
To all of you suffering through hard times on this board, I hope things get better for you! I hope to get to know you all better!
Well the end of day one for me was worse than the beginning. I started the day with every intention of eating "right" for me, exercising and most importantly, feeling good about me.....that lasted until about 11 when my co worker started saying how she wanted chocolate! THerefore it was okay that I wanted it too! How stupid is that. One day at a time really needs to be 1 hour at a time for me.
A bit of background. I'm 37 years old, been married for a bit over 13 years and have an 11 year old son. My son is mildly autistic, (which is a whole different thread on a different site!) but the best kid in the world. Challenging every day to say the least. I am sorry to say he has picked up my eating and lack of exercise habits and I am having a hard time changing that for both of us. He has been lucky in school that he hasn't come under attack from his peers, his naive-ness and youth for his age is probably what shelters him, but my husband and I are having a hard time telling him that his choices need to change, he's picky to say the least, and would much prefer to sit at the computer or video games all day than move. As I was constantly told I was fat all thru my childhood, I never use that word in the house, I don't want him to get self-conscious or worried about his appearance and spend his life worried about what other people think of him. We try to stress that we all need to get healthy that's why we need to move and eat less and better. It's a tough road!
Well, my plan for the day is just to get thru it and make some really good choices.
My opinion for Dale, you deserve more than a life wondering what is the truth or not, no matter how long you've invested in a person, once the trust is gone, it really never comes back.....experience? maybe!
As for everyone else, it's great to get to know you!
Julie
Pray- It's always great to have somebody in the household change their eating lifestyles along with you!! Hubby and I have been low carbing this together as well- I've just lost more than him, which is good, cuz I've got more to lose!!!! But it certainly makes life much easier- even the kids are getting in on the act to 'help' Mom and Dad, and they are getting healthier along with us, eating wholesome foods instead of processed ones!
When I was about 10 or 11, my GRANDMOTHER signed me up for Gloria Stevens when I visited her for the summer- the gals there told me I was just 'big boned'- I'd lose it when I hit puberty...well, still waiting here..so the overweight thing has pretty much plagued me my entire life. I did lose 30lbs in high school and kept it off just long enough to have a bit of a social life and nab my husband of the last 17yrs..once I had the girls I kind of never got around to losing the extra weight I had gained. It took my Dr. telling me TWICE to finally put my foot to the ground and do this.
Dale, if you don't trust him NOW, don't marry him. Someone who truly loves you will always take responsibility for their actions. I know this will be hard, but don't make that mistake-
Partschick-
As you change your eating habits, also change your sons- back off on the potatoes, add more veggies, use pockets instead of bread. My girls LOVE my low carb pizza- use a low carb tortilla, spread with salsa or pizza sauce, cheese,and add assorted topping- then heat and eat- the result is a lower calorie, much more healthy meal!
Kami, you may find the folks here make it easier to lose weight- it's nice to have somebody to share with!!!
Deeni-
It is IMPOSSIBLE to stay OT when you go to a shower- Don't worry about it and just plan to do better tomorrow- it doesn't do any good to beat yourself up over it, believe me! We are here to hold you up!
Good Morning everyone. Dale you deserve better. It sounds like he is an alcoholic. He will not change for you and if he doesn't admit he has a problem and want to stop for himself then he will never change. If you marry him you will always be wondering, wondering where he is at, wondering what he is doing and who he is doing it with, and wondering when you will get that dreaded phone call from the police or a hospital. Just remember that you and your life has value and don't settle for second best, you deserve a good man who deserves a good person like you. Pray for GOd to send you the life partner that He wants you to have, you will not go wrong there.
Lissandy- yes it is good to have my hubby in this with me, I have a few overweight friends whose husbands are skinny and can eat anything and not gain weight and that makes it harder for the spouse who can just smell it and gain weight. We both hope to reach our goals in about a year from now, but we are focusing more on just one weekly weighin at a time.
Parschick - the past is the past, so don't fret about yesterday's eating disaster. You always have today to start over. Try not to add past guilt to the struggle of making it through today without overeating. You can do it and we are all here to help.
Well gotta get ready for work and eat breakfast. Have a blessed day. Remember if it is meant to be, then it is up to me.
Good morning! A new day has begun and with it endless possibilities and opportunities. For the new people on this thread that weren't on the Father's Day Challenge, let me introduce myself. I am 36 years old, mother of one 6 year old girl, and wife of almost 9 years. Our family boats and camps several weekends of the year, from spring to fall. So, I am in a swimsuit alot, scaring the wildlife and tourists!!! Although I have a very positive self image, I would like to get about 40 pounds off, but just don't seem to do it without extreme sacrifice. Slow metabolism or something....I am having that checked with the doctor at my annual. Anyways, I am here for the comeraderee of loosing weight.
Trixi, Sweetie, I have been where you are at and I am sending you a hug. I spent 5 1/2 year with a guy who I was engaged to and lived with for 3 of those years. LOTS of issues and problems, and it came down to the fact that I no longer trusted him nor believed that he was acting on what was best for our future. It was very hard because he had a daughter that I had helped to raise and support. But, in the end he had to go. I don't know Sean, and I know that he has some good in him because of the things you have told us about. But only you can look at the big picture and decided if you want to invest anymore of your life in him. At the end of my relationship I really wished that I had saved myself from wasting time on a hopeless relationship, and had moved on. I could have had two years of happiness instead of the constant pressure that the relationship had become. HUGS to you in trying to sort out your feeling for him.
Partschick - We are finding in our house that if you replace the junk that everyone likes to snack on with some healthier choices you'll start eating better. I mean, if there's no Doritos to reach for, you can't eat em right? I just thought that it may be a point of interest to you that I am a Service coordinator in the Early Intervention System for the state of Illinois. I work with families who have children under the age of three with developmental disabilities or delays. I have met and worked with hundreds of families over the years that have a child with autism.
Kamitwi - Sound like you have some really great things going on in your life! What are you studying? It sounds like it has been a hard few years for you, but kuddos to you for pulling it all together and making these changes in your life! You should be very proud, and that should help to propel you forward. Look how far you've come!!!
Lissandy - I am trying to enlist my husband into the diet routine. Unconciously he has been because I have just been cooking better foods. Now if I could just get him to eat smaller portions! He is physical all day, and I know that if he limited his portions he would lose a ton.
Deenie - Get back at it! Yesterday is over....think thin for today!!! Don't dwell on the mistakes, focus on the positives!!! You can do it!
Pray - Good luck to you today in meeting your dieting goals!
Well gals, I have only today left in the work week and then it's out to the lake. One of my pals from High School is in from Georgia and we are having our once a year "Lake Day" on Saturday. No kids and a few cold brews and lots of reminiscing! I can't wait!!! There are about 8 couples camping with us this weekend. Should be lots of fun, but I'll have to catch up on the posts on Sunday night or Monday.
partschik--Aww, I'm with you there on the chocolate. I found a bag of chocolate chips in the cupboard yesterday--I stole a handful, then threw away the bag while I was distracted by the chocolate, so I couldn't have anymore, hehe, outsmarted myself ^_^
Boatingmommy--Thanks for the encouragement. Ironically enough, I work with people people with developmental disabilities too! However, most of the people I help take care of are severely challenged. I have a very good friend who is mildy asperger's autistic, and I know that disabled people can lead whole lives, and people might not even guess that they've been labeled, so good luck to you and your son, partschik!
I started off the day right by exercizing this morning, yay me, and now I'm off to hang out with my terribly skinny friend --who is a criminal ice cream pusher-- and I'll have to avoid the pitfalls that come with that! Hope you all have a good day, good luck!
Since some of you weren't on the last thread, let me reintroduce myself. I am 50 *YIKES*, married with 5 kids and 1 grandson. Both my dh and myself were widowed several years ago so ours is a blended family. 3 of the 5 got married this last year so it has been a busy and stressful one. I gained most of my weight when my first dh was ill in the last couple years before he died and 4 years ago lost 25 of them and then gained it back again. I am now ready to try to loose it again.
Thanks for all the well wishes and today I was BACK ON PROGRAM!!!! YEAH!!!!
Saw we have a new person join us - Kamatwi - welcome and WOW you have already been very successful!
Thanks deenie...just sitting here, looking at my exercize bike right now, trying to will myself onto it. Once I get started, it's fine, but until then...bleh.
Hello everyone! How are you all? My husband and I had our weekly weigh in today and he loss 1.25 and I loss 1.00 so we are happy with that, anyway hubby needs the phone and the internet ties it up so see you ladies later. GOd BLess You
Happy Weekend, (Oh Saturday is almost over I guess)
My son and I went swimming this am for a few hours, felt great to get both of us away from the TV.....and into the sun.
I am curious what "plans" you all are on, some seem to be doing extremely well. I have been floating for a while now, totally confused with which way to go. I've done WW and was very sucessful, then did the South Beach for a short while but was successful...I've gotten caught up in the hype of the low carb thing, but really I did just as good on low fat a few years ago. I hate the way the packaging has changed from every corner of every box saying low fat to now saying low carb. I am really thinking about joining up at WW again, I really liked the meetings and the friends you make there. I have my reunion coming up and though I knew about it almost a year ago, I still did nothing really about my weight. So, I am just going to make myself up and buy a new outfit and go. I hope 20 years will make a difference in my old friends gossipy ways!
As for Boatingmommy and Kamitwi, my son is Aspergers and it's nice to know there are friends out there that understand. I wish we had noticed that there was something "wrong" when he was really young. But we had no clue. It took a great daycare worker when he was about 4 to point out a few differences in him than she saw in the 1000's of other kids she knew. He is in a public school special day class going into 5th grade and doing great. I tell everyone now to trust your instincts with you kids, if you think something isn't quite right, look into it. It takes special people to work with anyone, any age with disabilities, if I was wearing a hat, I'd tip it to you both!!!!
Just a quick line girls, hubby and I are flying our for Dallas tomorrow for market with one of our suppliers for our businesses, so I will get back to you either Monday night or Tuesday morning. Julie remind me and I will explain the plan my hubby and I follow, can't right now have to go pack. God Bless.
This first week has been really crazy for me. I have the move of my house, our office is moving the same day, and finally the problems I am having with my fiance. It's been decided that for now we we live at the apartment but separately, until I can figure out something else. All we have been doing is fighting and it's driving me mental. So I am going to take a breather from trying to out and get used to the idea that I am now single. Gotto go now as my nephew wants the computer.
Good morning! A new day has begun and with it endless possibilities and opportunities. For the new people on this thread that weren't on the Father's Day Challenge, let me introduce myself. I am 36 years old, mother of one 6 year old girl, and wife of almost 9 years. Our family boats and camps several weekends of the year, from spring to fall. So, I am in a swimsuit alot, scaring the wildlife and tourists!!! Although I have a very positive self image, I would like to get about 40 pounds off, but just don't seem to do it without extreme sacrifice. Slow metabolism or something....I am having that checked with the doctor at my annual. Anyways, I am here for the comeraderee of loosing weight. 
You should be very proud, and that should help to propel you forward. Look how far you've come!!!
