It really, really does happen, IF IF IF you want it badly enough. But it has to be the main focus of your efforts, when you are working out and eating. A lot of people seem to go to the gym or go on a diet just for the social interaction, it seems to me. At my water aerobics class, the fattest woman there was a leader in a weight loss organization, and ALWAYS on a diet. But she was always talking, talking, talking to other people in the class, and barely moving a muscle.
There are people who get caught up in the "process" of dieting and exercising, the social aspect, but they aren't focused on getting results. There are also people who aren't totally committed-- they are there to keep from feeling guilty, so they put in a half-hearted effort and then eat on the sly. Or worse, they "work out" with their buddies and then go eat a big meal together because they "earned" it!
I've learned the hard way that I have to stay away from people who don't really have their eyes on the prize. I do the stuff that works for me, and I don't worry about other people-- they are in charge of their own bodies, I'm in charge of mine. Don't look at them, look inside yourself. Find YOUR motivation, whatever it might be, and just put in the work day after day, month after month. It's like putting a nickel in the cookie jar every day. Not a lot, but it adds up over time. It's a lot like going to school, in fact-- it takes 4 years to get through high school, 4 or more years for college. Think of it as putting yourself through "body college!"
Look at my stats below. What you don't see is the time it's taken me to get this far: 2 years and two months as of this writing. I'm in it for the long haul. It's like that old cliche from school: "every day in every way I'm getting better and better."
Think about it. You'll be alive next year, and the year after, and the year after that, God willing. If you lose 15 pounds each year, you'll be 45 pounds slimmer in three years. That's not quick weight loss, but would you rather be smaller or much bigger 3 years from now? Also fitter and happier, too!!!
It can happen for you. Find your motivation. Look inside.
Age 48, 5'6" Living with PCOS.
Start: January 1, 2002, 220 lbs., size 24
Current: 163 lbs, size 10 - 12, 39"-31.5"-39.75"
Goal: size 10 in Levi's 515 jeans.