"Diet" food = my low-cal/carb pitas & lavash, frozen calorie counted dinners, etc.
Yeah. All I feed my kids is noodles and bread, and I eat the green veggies.
In fact, I refuse to give them broccoli and spinach, though they beg for it when they see it on my plate.
Yes, I do think cheese and butter are health (and I mean that non-sarcastically). I believe that kids need fat. They need whole milk. They need the extra calories for their growing bodies. I, however, do NOT need the extra calories. I am a 41-year-old mostly-sedentary woman. Although I do eat butter, cheese and whole milk, I have to watch portions from a strictly calorie point of view.
And no, I do NOT want my kids to know I am dieting. They see me as beautiful. I do not want them to think I am critical about my appearance. Fact is, I don't need to lose weight for health reasons. I am within a healthy BMI. The pounds I am trying to lose are vanity. If I had to watch what I eat for my health, that would be a different story.
I think it's okay to tell them that kids and grown-ups have different nutritional needs, which I believe is true, but I also believe in the unity of the family meal.
To those who offered advice, I thank you.