Originally Posted by Emma4545
Also it feels like my set point (when I feel happy and satisfied) is about 500 calories over my BMR.
I can relate. I feel happiest and most satisfied (mentally, but also physically) when eating about 3,000 cals per day, which is 1,000 cals above my maintenance level of 2,000. So it comes down to making a conscious choice between existing in my "happy place" and being thinner. Kinda sucks, but there you have it.
I agree that it's difficult to find a balance that we can follow long-term without a build-up of psychological deprivation. I've been maintaining for 2+ years now and doing well overall, but every once in a while the old monster rears its head. The other day I had this urge, seemingly out of nowhere, to buy a whole ton of food and stuff my face. I resisted, but it goes to show that the old circuits never get completely overwritten.