No, not THAT B word! I meant the other one...you know, bikini. Having never, even at my lowest weight, felt comfortable enough to wear one, there has still always been a small part of me that wanted to. Just because. Now, I'm not one to show a lot of skin or dress trashy or anything. I'm not talking some string/floss monstrosity that makes you pretty much as good as naked anyway, you know, the kind that you see and think "Hmm, why did you even bother? You're pretty much nude." But these days there are some "retro" bikinis on the market that are a fair bit more modest and very cute. There is even the "Fatkini" for girls with a bit more they want to conceal.
So I guess in all my ramblings I was just wondering if anyone else felt this way and if anyone here actually ACCOMPLISHED the goal of wearing a bikini in public and not feeling horrified? Someone who lost a significant amount of weight, not just 10 or 20lbs? I say that because in previous conversations about this subject I've gotten far too many skinny girls who looked good in the bikini to start with, but claim they are *fat* then lost 5-10lbs and think that qualifies them to understand where *I* am coming from, being an actual fat gal and trying to lose weight. What I'm getting at, is that I am working on my own confidence to do something I wish to do, despite what others may think.
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So I guess in all my ramblings I was just wondering if anyone else felt this way and if anyone here actually ACCOMPLISHED the goal of wearing a bikini in public and not feeling horrified? Someone who lost a significant amount of weight, not just 10 or 20lbs?
I'm 56 and I own -- and wear -- three bikinis. Not the G-string type, but not the fat-girl type either. I lost 50 pounds two years ago and now feel quite comfortable in a bikini, though I sometimes wonder if people are privately tsk-tsking. ("What? At her age? Who does she think she is?") Go for it, girl, is what I say.
I wish I weren't like this, but I'm too much of a perfectionist with myself to wear a bikini.
I lost 40-50 pounds a few years ago. I was in my best shape as an adult last year (toned and a few pounds lighter than I am now), but even then I was too self-conscious. What prevents me from wearing a bikini is cellulite. I have some on the back of my thighs. It's not even that bad, but I feel so ashamed about it. Last year, I was doing lots of lower body exercises and my cellulite was almost totally gone, but b/c it wasn't completely gone, I wouldn't wear a bathing suit without shorts.
I hate that I care about this so much. I see women showing more cellulite in public without any apparent embarrassment and I admire their self-acceptance. I know my attitude is unhealthy, I just can't seem to shake it. I would never hold anyone else to the standards to which I hold myself, yet I keep doing it.
I bought a bikini a couple of weeks ago. I took some progress pics in it and plan to continue to do so monthly. The pictures are helping me objectively see my body. I'm really proud of what I have accomplished so far, but I don't feel confident enough to wear it in public yet.
I will never wear a bikini again After having my baby my stretch marks are horrendous, and I mean it honestly, I'm not into self deprecation.
But that is the only reason. As a teenager I was overweight and I felt super confident in a bikini. In my opinion bikinis are a lot more flattering than one pieces. I remember that I used to wear the bikini because the bottoms would sit perfectly on my little pouch giving the illusion that my belly was a lot flatter than it actually was, whereas the one pieces would perfectly outline my belly pouch for the world to see. Bikinis do make you feel like you're nakey though so I think it really just takes confidence regardless of what you look like.
*Music* Dun dun dun! The B word...
Last year, I was doing lots of lower body exercises and my cellulite was almost totally gone, but b/c it wasn't completely gone, I wouldn't wear a bathing suit without shorts. 
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