I don't know why I continue to be surprised when people say rude things to me, but I am really tired of it.
My husband has a friend who is an egotistical loudmouth. He constantly says obnoxious things in front of our group of friends.
Last week, he and his wife hosted a dinner party and in front of everyone there, he referred to me as a whale
! He kept making one whale joke after another. I was so shocked and embarrassed, I didn't know what to say. No one at the party said anything either. There was just an awkward silence.
Later, I spoke to him alone and told him never to say anything like that to me again. He responded "I know, I'm sorry". I know the kind of person he is so I do consider the source, but it is still embarrassing.
What is it with people who have to make mean comments? When my MIL does it, I get right in her face and she backs off. I don't want to have to do that but I am not going to just take it.
The comments are never constructive or said out of concern for my well being. The comments are always cruel. I guess some people enjoy hurting others. It feels like grade school all over again! I don't go around criticizing other people so I don't understand the need to make comments.
Any suggestions on how to cope with this?