3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > Weight Loss Support

Weight Loss Support Give and get support here!

Thread Tools
Old 05-12-2013, 08:22 AM   #1
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Scotland.
Posts: 23

Height: 5'4

Question The Word Forever

I was wondering if its just me that finds the word forever/the idea of forever seriously demotivating. I know I need to make changes, that they are long term changes and, if they work and are healthy, that they should be permanent but the idea of forever and permanently makes me feel.... Trapped. Like its too big a commitment. Too big a responsibility. Too easy a thing to completely mess up and fail at. It makes me feel rubbish. But not acknowledging it feels like I'm not taking this seriously enough. I end up in a mind loop of uncertainty (and while I'm frozen I pretty much fall back on the bad eating habits I have at the moment).

So, to try and manage that I'm trying to focus on wee goals, the short term. But I just wondered if anyone else feels the same or similar (and what you do to counteract it)
slw2013 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 09:05 AM   #2
Sue finding inner song
wannaskipandlaugh's Avatar
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Port St. Lucie FL
Posts: 4,192

S/C/G: 313.4/298.2/160

Height: 5' 4" 3/4


How about not forever.... Try thinking just for today? sometimes not stretching things out infinitely but just for a short period of time helps But yes... trying to be healthy person is a permanent change or you get back to the bad habits (which eating badly just is) and gaining weight, lose muscle etc) So think... Daily..... not lifelong... Just a thought... It just makes it seem not so overwhelming

2013 weight loss journey start 320 Loss 111 = 209
New Goal (2017 313.4 start) Lose 10%

You have to believe it first and then you will see it!!

1 for every 10 lbs lost

to Rauros Falls 1309 miles
traveled: 1065.25 (exercise miles only) started 3/1/13
Remaining: 243.75 - Rauros Falls!
wannaskipandlaugh is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 09:06 AM   #3
Senior Member
Palestrina's Avatar
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: New York, NY
Posts: 4,607

S/C/G: 215/188/150

Height: 5'4"


I used to feel the same way.... back when I wasn't ready to lose weight. Now the word forever means something totally different for me. I do not want to eat cheetos forever, I do not want to feel forever trapped by my compulsive eating, I do not want to forever be tempted by food. Really, why should food rule my life forever? I want my forever to be about enjoying my activities, my life, my family and my friends, I want my forever to be consumed with living.

Many people die because of diseases related to obesity. That was the forever they died with, I don't want that for me.

"If you pay attention to when you are hungry, what your body wants, what you are eating, when you've had enough, you end the obsession because obsession and awareness cannot coexist." - Geneen Roth
Palestrina is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 09:16 AM   #4
Senior Member
elvislover324's Avatar
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Canada
Posts: 3,689


I find the word "forever" empowering this time around!!

I never have to weigh in the 200s again, forever.

I now know how to eat properly and see the rewards both physically and medically (in blood tests, etc.) and want to keep seeing these benefits, forever.

This is the first summer that I am looking forward to in regards to sundresses, shorts, bathing suits (yikes!), all summer clothes (and not being covered up in long shirts and long pants to pretend I wasn't large or because nothing fit). I want to look forward to future summers this same way, forever.

I love riding my bike, going on long walks, learning to run right now, and I want to be physically active as it makes me feel better in my body and my mind. I want this feeling forever.

So yes, FOREVER makes me extremely giddy about my future and to finally have a plan and proof that it works, to keep doing what I am doing calms me down and brings me inner peace with myself. And I want those too, you guessed it, forever!
elvislover324 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 09:17 AM   #5
Senior Member
Happymomof2's Avatar
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Massachusetts
Posts: 126

S/C/G: 178/start IP 159.8/134.8/130

Height: 5'3"


Yes , it's like you read my mind and put it all in writing. It's exactly how I feel but never knew how to express it. I too feel trapped sometimes and always vulnerable. I know that is the old me, the heavy me that makes me feel that way. I have to realize along with the weight loss I have to change my way of thinking too. Our inner monologue can really do a number on us huh?! I don't know the answer to any of this because its all new to me. I'm 10 pounds from goal and I'm more afraid now than ever. I'm trying to let that fear motivate me. I hope you can figure out how to overcome these thoughts and turn them into a posituve voice a day at a time. I will try to do the same. Good luck and thank you!
url=http://www.3fatchicks.com/] [/url]

Last edited by Happymomof2; 05-12-2013 at 09:20 AM.
Happymomof2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 09:45 AM   #6
Senior Member
ikesgirl80's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Houston, Texas
Posts: 224

S/C/G: 350/180/180 (surgery recovery)

Height: 5'9"


Oh yes forever was intimidating at first. And so I made myself a promise, during this weight loss, I would NOT do anything that I could not do forever. So initially that meant my exercise was walking 3 miles per week (broken up however I wanted), and following "The Carbohydrate Addict's Diet". After a couple of months, I felt I could up that, so I did. Eventually, over a course of 2 1/2 years, I now typically eat 1500-1600 calories, and do Crossfit and running several times a week for exercise. Now I have more of the sentiment you see above, but it definitely did NOT start that way. I had to build up to it, baby step by baby step.
ikesgirl80 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 12:27 PM   #7
Senior Member
Just Dance Girl's Avatar
Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: Colorado
Posts: 172

S/C/G: 145/125/123

Height: 5'4"


You guys are so inspiring! You've really got your heads on straight!

forever totally sounds overwhelming to me! As soon as I think it, I want to go out and break all my rules! So I don't say or think it. I do two weeks or one week or even one day.

But the idea of being strong and fit forever sounds really good!

Goal? Slim, elegant, faux Parisienne!

Last edited by Just Dance Girl; 05-12-2013 at 12:28 PM.
Just Dance Girl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 01:24 PM   #8
Krissy Missy
Missy Krissy's Avatar
Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Michigan
Posts: 912

S/C/G: 181/see ticker/120

Height: 5'2"


Wow Wannabeskinny and Elvislover really put "forever" into perspective! They're so right, I don't want to be forever trapped by compulsive eating, and I want to feel better in my body forever. Thanks ladies!

OP - I think know how you feel, it's a bit frightening to think that this has to be a permanent change isn't it? That you will forever have to be mindful of what you're eating. Don't let it discourage you! I really think that some major insight has been given here. And, if you're worried about missing your favorite unhealthy foods/junk foods, remember that you don't have to be on plan 24/7/365/forever, once you get into the swing of things you can always plan "cheat" days for yourself to keep from feeling deprived. Eventually you'll find a balance!

One for every five pounds lost!

Mini Goals:
No longer obese achieved 10/12/12
, 20 pounds down and pedicure reward achieved 11/16/12, 40 pounds down and facial reward achieved 2/22/13, No longer overweight - achieved 4/12/13, 60 pounds down and full body massage reward
Missy Krissy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 02:46 PM   #9
Senior Member
freelancemomma's Avatar
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Toronto
Posts: 2,213

S/C/G: 195/145/145

Height: 5'11"


Originally Posted by slw2013 View Post
I was wondering if its just me that finds the word forever/the idea of forever seriously demotivating. I know I need to make changes, that they are long term changes and, if they work and are healthy, that they should be permanent but the idea of forever and permanently makes me feel.... Trapped.
I've already described how I don't do "forever" -- the loss feels too great to me, with no feelings of virtue to offset it. I've devised ways of incorporating my biggest vices into my life by placing very firm limits on them. I only smoke when I'm travelling on business and I only eat with no restraint (4,000 cals+ at a sitting) when I'm at an all-you-can-eat Asian restaurant or gourmet catered affair. Both the smoking and eating events happen about 6-8 times per year. I don't recommend this approach for everyone, though. It would have to work with your psychology.

That said, there's no reason to give up ANY of your favourite foods, unless you actually want to. You can incorporate regular treats into any eating plan, and doing so is mentally healthy, IMO.

freelancemomma is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 02:49 PM   #10
Join Date: Nov 2000
Posts: 6,269


After feeling ill from eating two donuts on Tuesday after months of gluten freedom, I do know that I want to be gluten/wheat free forever.

I do know I want to be in the 120s or lower forever so my Capris will fit as my legs are too short to wear regular jeans & it forever will be a pain to find clothes that fit right if I can't wear the Capris or shorts & this is Arizona & it is going to be hot here in the summertime forever.

I want to be forever free of food ruling me & want to enjoy & rule it forever.

I forever want to stay as healthy as I can & enjoy exercise forever and I will feel that way forever. I will forever be non perfect & forever subject to losing focusing on the journey & regressing but I will forever keep trying.
Amarantha2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 03:11 PM   #11
Trying to be in the 160s
IanG's Avatar
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Washington, D.C.
Posts: 4,807

S/C/G: See my siggy ;)

Height: 5'8"


Forever in weightloss is a piece of cake compared to forever in marriage, for example.

It's a walk in the park.

The only things you can control in this life are your own decisions.

So control them. Forever.

Running because of Diana
Believing because of Sue
Elvis lives!
Getting fashion advice from Sum
ReillyJ and Carpediem saved my knees!
Don't believe the hype. EAT MORE FISH.
If the bar ain't bendin', you're just pretendin'!

Last edited by IanG; 05-12-2013 at 03:15 PM.
IanG is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2013, 06:28 PM   #12
Join Date: Dec 2012
Posts: 99

S/C/G: 169/ticker/140

Height: 5.4


Life taught me through thick and thin that 'forever' and 'never' are dangerous words....so i try not to use them. Whenever i do use them, i end up eating them in 'the end'......

Ellemphriem is offline   Reply With Quote

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Song Titles With the Word ______ [2] P H A T Games 250 06-22-2012 06:48 PM
Song Titles With The Word ________ ap90 Games 502 04-26-2011 03:02 PM
Make A Sentence Out Of The Letters In The Word murphmitch General chatter 506 03-14-2009 08:57 AM
Does the word Morbidly Obese flip you out? annie s Weight Loss Support 40 02-10-2009 03:30 PM

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 11:43 PM.

We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.

Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2