While I disagree with the connotations of "blowing it" (as in, I am a failure and should feel bad about it) I do have a point where I feel like I went too far overboard. I don't count calories but if I'm consistently (like 3 days in a row) having a "little extra" here and there, I feel like I've gone too far. Does that make sense? This week was full of birthday parties for my family (brother and husband have very close birthdays) so I ate a lot of cake and cookies (3 pieces of cake and about 6 chocolate chip cookies, all homemade by me!). Do I feel bad about it? Sort of. Do I let it dictate how I'm going to eat the rest of the week, yes. I am going to eat lower calorie and be more stingy until weigh-in. At no point, though, do I feel like I blew it because it is TOTALLY NORMAL to have cake, I just shouldn't have cake 3 days in a row! I hope this made sense!
I totally know what you mean by blowing it. For me my calorie cap is pretty low cuz I don't get much exercise and am short so sometimes I want to just stop counting and call the day a right off after about 1750 but I try not to do that cuz if I stop eating at 1750 I'm alot better off than if I say "this day is ruined, I'll start again tomorrow" and eat til I'm sick.
Next mini goal- below 144lbs- 144 is my magic number. I have a mental block about 144. Whenever I get there I start gaining. I got to 142 briefly but it didn't last.
Blowing it for me is not about a particular number; it's about knowing deep down that I ate in an out of control manner. Not eating because of hunger or nutrition, but eating because I was mad or happy, or bored. My lifelong problem is eating to solve problems that can't be solved through food, so if I resort to that, then I know that I've blown it.
It doesn't meant that I continue to blow it, however, or stop working on it.
My "I blew it" doesnt come with calories, but just how much crap I ate. It various on days. I always seem to "blow it" at night - after being great all day, I end up eating way to much junk at night. Luckily, after a heart to heart with the hubby, we both have decided that no more junk food is allowed in the house!
Blowing it for me is not about a particular number; it's about knowing deep down that I ate in an out of control manner.
This for me.
The last time I lost weight I was counting calories and the stress of having to weigh and log everything got to me. Every time I went over I felt bad, even if I went over because I was hungry.
I've just started changing my eating habits and I'm trying to figure out what works best for me. So right now, the only blowing it is if I eat an entire piece of cake rather than taking a couple of bites to satiate my desire for it.
Around 1,800+ (w/o exercise) and then I'm not a happy camper when I get to bed that night. If this happens then I just make sure to eat lower calorie the next day and I never eat two high calorie meals in a row. Never. Checks and balances.
I also look at things a little different. I don't "critique" myself (for lack of better term) based on day to day I look at the overall week. How many times did I eat out vs. how many days/hours did I bust @ss in the gym. If the gym far exceeded my cheat meals then I'm usually in the clear. I still have 3p to lose but I'm excellent at maintianing that's for sure. I have recently really ramped things up because I just want to be at goal already.
I never feel like I blew it, because that implies that I'm defeated and the choices afterward don't matter because of failure. I just don't believe that. I *think* I know what you're getting at, in which case if I am more than a meal's worth over my daily calorie target it's fairly off plan for me, but I really don't give it more thought than a mental shrug!
Resilience in these matters and perspective - those are SO important
Like the others, I don't like to think of it as failing, but if I eat at or go over maintenance calories (or what I think might be maintenance calories), I feel like it's a wasted day and I'll be paying for it on the scale and it will take THAT much longer to get to goal because of it.
So, typically that's about 400-1000 calories extra for the day -depending on whether or not I exercised and how my I exercised.
Restart 5/18/15 began at 263.9. All time high was 275 in 7/03. Low in Summer 2012 of 169.
A for the first 50 pounds lost, plus a for every additional 5 pounds lost on the weight loss reboot: