I agree with Vex - I think it's just about making healthier decisions at each meal. Take it one bite and one meal at a time. Calorie counting is probably the ideal situation, but if you can't handle that right now, don't do it. Use your "common sense" and eat lower calorie foods than you currently do. Not an extreme, "nothing but lettuce" kind of diet, but just little improvements - popcorn instead of potato chips or try omitting the cheese/mayo on your sandwich, etc. There's a book called Eat This Not That that might help. The concept is about "invisible" dieting - you make lower calorie swaps on things that don't matter to you. You won't see a quick weight loss with this, but it might be a permanent change you can make that will add up over time.
I think there are two schools of thought - rapid routine modification for quicker results or slower, more gradual changes for slower more gradual weight loss. I've seen people on here make great progress with both choices. Which one is right for you?
But, my guess is that it's not an information problem - especially because I know you've been around the boards for a long time. I think it's some internal work that you need to do. There's a lot of us that struggle with this. Weight loss is scary. Being overweight, while it has its "cons, is also familiar to us. It's comforting. We know how to handle life in this body and it seems "easier" to just keep on, keepin' on. We tell ourselves, "I am an intelligent beautiful woman at any weight who has happy things in her life. I can lose weight later. I'm happy like I am." Yes....good....but you're not. This is my internal dialogue which could be different from yours - but just explore yours and see where it takes you.
You have mental roadblocks up - and no plan will help you to be successful until you can work through those. You don't have to have it all done to start - so don't use that excuse. One of my favorite posts on here talks about loving yourself enough to get started. It's DCHound on her "What's Different This Time" post. But, it's so true. You don't have to be giddy and excited with glee over yourself, but if you can put together enough love to just start - and then let the journey take you where it goes. Each time you want to run back into your "safe cave of overweight," don't. Examine the mental roadblock and PUSH THROUGH IT!
That's a big part of this journey - the mental work. It's scary, exhausting, overwhelming - but it's worth it. Honestly, not even for the weight loss - as wonderful as that has been - it's worth it to finally have that positive self esteem and confidence.
Keep posting here as you go through these things and we'll all help you!! Just keep working and keep going. You can do this!!
We're all pulling for you!!