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Old 01-11-2013, 08:03 AM   #1
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My boyfriend of 4 years and I just broke up yesterday because we just can't agree on kids--I don't want them and he does. We both thought i would change my mind, but it never happened, and now im 28 and he's 29. Normally, I would comfort eat and stuff myself with food, start drinking more, etc. but since I've started living a healthier lifestyle and losing weight 6 months ago, I now know that eating isn't the answer. I'm going to eat even more healthy, take care of myself, and get those last 17 lbs off. I'm going to use this as an excuse to take better care of myself than ever.

Break ups suck, especially when you are living together...but cupcakes and pizza and potato chips are not the answer!!
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Old 01-11-2013, 10:10 AM   #2
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It is a good motivation. And good for you and him for realizing this! You'll be happier in the long run and so will he.

Good luck and it's a good time to focus on yourself!
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Old 01-11-2013, 10:21 AM   #3
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Kids are one of those major issues you cannot/should not compromise on. It's good that you understand yourself enough to realize you do not want children.

Sorry you're going through a rough time but pamper yourself for a little bit (with non-food stuff). The better you feed yourself, the healthier you'll be and you'll move on so much faster. The bad food just feeds a cycle of depression, self loathing, and doubt, at least for me.

Hope things smooth out soon.
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Old 01-11-2013, 11:18 AM   #4
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Hugs to you. That's a big dealbreaker in a relationship and it's impossible to know what you want when you are younger/starting out! It's also good you guys could be honest - some people just lie about it, get married, and then are like "oh I said maybe but I really meant no way."

I wish you all the best in recovering from the heartbreak and getting yourself into the best shape possible.
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Hey, hugs for you! And I admire that you are able to see this as motivation. Keep up the great mentality.

I am sort of in the same boat btw. I don't want children and my boyfriend is sure he does. We've only been together two years so it's not really an issue yet, but I do expect it is going to be a dealbreaker at some point. I hope you get used to being alone again and/or find a new partner with similar plans for the future. Good luck with your weightloss and everything else!
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Sorry to hear about the break up.....hugs to you.

You have a great attitude about the food/drinking...just keep thinking positive.
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Old 01-11-2013, 06:28 PM   #8
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It is a good motivation. And good for you and him for realizing this! You'll be happier in the long run and so will he.

Good luck and it's a good time to focus on yourself!
Sure, it's a good motivation.
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Old 01-11-2013, 09:18 PM   #9
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*hug* Anything can be motivating, true. Good luck!
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Old 01-12-2013, 07:31 AM   #10
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Lots of hugs!! I recently also broke up with a boyfriend of 4 years, and I am attempting to use it as motivation- it sounds like you're already doing amazingly!! Message me if you want to talk
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Thanks so much for the support you guys, it's reassuring to hear that I did the right thing. Focusing on diet and exercise is a good distraction during all this. I love him and we didn't fight or anything--we just finally acknowledged that we want different things in life. He's such an incredible person, it is sad to let him go.

Thanks again everyone! You guys are really awesome
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