I have social phobia so I don't go out much. I lost my last semi friend a few years ago when she stabbed me in the back yet again. I mainly only talk to hubby, my kids, my parents and my sister occasionally.
My problem is this, my sister is heavier than I am by far and does not want to put forth any effort into losing weight so I can't talk to her because all I hear is how if she was as skinny (
) as I am she would be thrilled.
My kids are teenage boys so they are out for any help.
My parents have health problems of their own and if I say anything to my mom about losing weight she tells me to just be fat and jolly and don't worry about it?! Then amazingly she buys me chocolate or some sort of candy "because she was thinking of me" even though I just told her I was losing weight.
When I talk to hubby about anything to do with weight loss he gets that look on his face that tells me he doesn't want to hear it, even though he says he will try to help me. Then if I ask him about figuring out portion size and calories in it or basically any question related to weight he just tells me over and over "I don't know"
I do have another site I go to for weight loss and I try to be as encouraging as I can and reply to their posts and I get nothing from them. One day I admitted I was in tears from my weight and I swear there were crickets chirping from my computer. Not one person who read it said one word to me, even though I have tried to help them with what little bit I can.
Then I am here, and see you guys trying to encourage people and help them out and answer questions and just being as supportive as you can. It made me realize that this is it. This site is the only support I get, and I haven't even been here that long or gotten to know anyone really. But I have been reading old threads and learning a lot.
Am I the only person who gets no support and encouragement from people you live around? I know that I should not rely on others to motivate me or help me, that it should all come from within me, but doesn't everyone need an encouraging word now and then?
I don't know whether I need a hug or a kick in the pants and told to suck it up and get over it.