I've been working with my therapist to determine why I eat when I'm not hungry. Right now at this moment, I am not physically hungry; however, I am bored. Because I am bored, I logged onto 3FC to read posts...but still find myself wanting to eat.

I'm truly trying to figure out why I'm feeling this way at this very moment. I think part of it is because I'm lonely. It's a Saturday night and I'm a single woman. I don't feel good about myself (my weight gain), so I made a choose not to date until I lost some weight and gained some self-esteem about my body. Another reason is because my cousin is in town for a conference and we decided to meeet up. I was excited to see him and had hoped that we would hang out for at least a few hours. However, he met me for 1 drink and then told me he had plans with his group of friends. I guess I shouldn't be so bummed about it...after all, he is a young guys (age 25) and I'm 8 years older than him...logically, I understand why he wouldn't want to hang out with his "old" cousin.

So now I'm back in my apartment on a beautiful Saturday night and I'm soooo bored. *sigh* I tempted to eat. I wish I had ice cream to eat, but all I have is healthy food. I want either cake or ice cream. I wish I had little debbie snack cakes.

Sometimes I think my weight gain is a result of being lonely...and that if I actually had a social life, then I wouldn't eat so much. It's just so hard for me to make friends. I'm new to Seattle (okay, maybe not THAT new...but new enough) and my coworkers are 20 years my senior and/or married.

What do I do? Even if I were to pop in a DVD right now, I'd be tempted to eat something. I wish my life wasn't so boring. All I'm missing is a cat...and then I can make the single-woman sterotype official.

wish I could help, but I am in the same situation. Im super bored, watching the olympics, and wishing I could go make myself a grilled cheese sandwich or something. And I'm not hungry! argh

I know it's easier said than done, but perhaps getting out of the house and being social would help?

I'm from Seattle, and it's such a vibrant community! Anything you could possibly be interested in, there are others interested in it too. What about taking a pottery class, joining a book club, trying a new class at the gym, or just going out and exploring a few blocks downtown?

Any of those things (and more) would be a fantastic way to meet people and would give you something to do to keep your mind off of food. I'm not saying to go out and date, but making friends can help to feed your soul and in turn keep you from feeding your face!

I would LOVE to be back in Seattle, but the military moved me to North Carolina (and I hate it) so if nothing else, do it for me! haha Take advantage of that gorgeous city and it's wonderful people!

I understand how you are feeling because I moved to Las Vegas in April and in the beginning it was very, very difficult... I was lonely, bored, and of course I turned to food for comfort. I'm 25, and also have older coworkers.

Try websites like meetup.com, you can find other people with similar interests and have a reason to leave your apartment. Yeah, it's uncomfortable to meet up with strangers at first, but you may meet 1 or 2 people from those groups that you'll have a connection with.

Having a social life does help with the boredom and loneliness that comes from emotional eating.... Getting out there is the first step. Being alone all the time is no way to live.

You may want to wait until you feel better about the way you look to start dating but you should try to make friends NOW!