on such an accomplishment!! WOW!
You all are TRULY INSPIRING and are great motivators and are tremendously encouraging!!
I can see how accepting compliments can be hard to do. I am seeing snips of this "problem" just from my minimal weight loss. It's as though nobody paid attention before and now, you have all kinds of attention. In some ways (with the example of people talking to you about how you've done it/what you've done) it is a form of invasion of privacy--now, all of a sudden, there's interest.
I think the key is to believe
what people are telling you. I think our society is so looks-oriented and anti-fat, that as former or current fat people, we have not had the pleasures of receiving compliments. It's all artifical sounding because it's new. It never ceases to amaze me how someone is considered "attractive" if they are "normal size" yet-they lack any beauty face-wise. Yet, if one is fat with a beautiful face, they are not considered "attractive."
I think all of this (losing weight/dealing with it) DOES come from inside. It's what we all tell ourselves. We need to learn to accept ourselves and look INWARD
for our own self-esteem. That is the hardest thing in the world for me to battle right now...I do see how the more I lose and definitely when I become "regular size" I will be facing these issues as well. One thing that bothers me, is, I see how I will be receiving a lot of compliments soley because of "looks." Sure, they will (and are starting now) to compliment me on my accomplishments-BUT-again, it is soley based on looks/not really having anything to do with the type of person I am. That's the biggest hurddle to me
. It would be nice to be noticed for other accomplishments NOT associated soley on my appearance. I suppose it IS just the nature of our society *sigh.*
I think counseling is a great idea! It really helps to have a neutral person to help you see things more clearly/positive. To be able to talk about and focus on you
(something that has been foreign for so many years) is really a blessing.
Good luck to all of you! and CONGRATULATIONS!! You have worked VERY HARD!! It will give you the confidence to succeed in other areas of your life as well! Thanks for sharing!