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Originally Posted by Wannabeskinny
If it's anything that IE is designed for it's this. IMO dieters who lose and regain and then lose again only to regain again get derailed by their resentment towards their diet. It's like walking a tight rope all the time, with an attitude of "I have to be good, I have to stay on plan, this food choice was good, that food choice was bad." When you're in a constant state of self-judgement over every morsel of food then yes, it's easy to build up resentment. Everybody knows what happens when you put a dog on a chain in the corner. Be afraid when it gets loose. When they fall off the tight rope they beat themselves up over it. Normal eaters are just standing on the ground looking up at the tight rope and thinking "dude, what are you doing up there, u crazy??"
It's very difficult to walk that tight rope all the time, and some people can get really far with it. But even a tightrope should get you to the other side eventually right? Unfortunately diets are a never ending tight rope, there's no other side you're either ON or you're gone.
Wannabe, I am really happy that IE is working out so well for you. I've been reading your posts with interest, and I sense an excitement and an inner peace in your posts. That's wonderful!
Just to present another perspective on it, though, I'd like to share my experience with IE, which seems quite different from yours: I have tried doing IE several times in past years and have failed miserably. For instance, when I tried IE, I was constantly trying to gauge whether I was "really" hungry or not, whether a craving was just in my head or whether my body really wanted/needed it, whether I had had enough food to feel satisfied, etc. Then, if I did eat when I was not hungry, I would feel like a failure----no different from "cheating" on any other diet. Also, at times my hunger signals were darned inconvenient and often did not coincide with traditional meal times / social eating times. For instance, I might be hungry at, say, 3:00 p.m. Well, if I happened to be in a circumstance where I could eat (i.e., not at work), I would eat. Then when dinnertime would come around, I would not be physically hungry. I faced a dilemma: Should I not eat dinner with my husband because I'm not hungry? To me, that is not an acceptable solution. (I cannot ignore the fact that eating is not just for nourishment or pleasure, but is a social/cultural activity, too). This is why I've come to believe that unless IE somehow clicks with the person trying it (as it seems to have with you and some others), it may be no different than a traditional diet, tightrope and all.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I am very happy for people for whom IE works (wish I was one of them). I understand the excitement of finding something that works and wanting to share that with everyone. However, I sometimes get the vibe from IEers that they've unlocked "THE" secret to happiness/weight loss/normal eating, and that the rest of us who are following typical "diet" plans are doomed to failure; I like reading the former, but the latter vibe can be a bit discouraging, that's all.
Hope you're not offended by my honesty. I just wanted to add another side to your comments about dieting being a "neverending tightrope" by sharing my experiences.