Originally Posted by FreeBird3
...How do you keep yourself in a positive mindset regarding dating when you do not feel beautiful?
Well...you can't. You need to learn to love yourself before you start a relationship.
You also have to realize that being thin and being beautiful do not go hand in hand.
You gained weight...so what? Does that make you less of a person all of a sudden? Nope! You are a person and you are totally and utterly WORTH IT and deserve to feel beautiful and loved
Learn to look past your weight and realize that you can be attractive and alluring despite what the scale says.
I'm not married but I did meet my fiance when I was 200 pounds. He fell in love with me at 200 pounds and is in love with me at 131 pounds. He tells me that when he first saw me he thought I was gorgeous but it was my personality that reeled him in (...the first thing I said to him was that I loved video games
). Whether I'm small or big I am the same person inside and I know that regardless of what I weigh he will always love me. I had other men after me when I was 200 pounds and I think it was because of my personality.
And about those guys who think you're desperate...you'll have to wade through a bunch of frogs before you can find your prince. I had guys proposition me too and it gets annoying and frustrating but they're not even worth your time.
I get more guys after me now that I'm at goal and because I was overweight for most of my life it's pretty easy for me to tell which guys wouldn't have given me the time of day at my starting weight. Now I just flash my engagement ring at them and laugh in their faces. Jerks aren't worth it.