3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community  

Go Back   3 Fat Chicks on a Diet Weight Loss Community > Support Forum > Weight Loss Support

Weight Loss Support Give and get support here!

When results fail to keep you motivated...

Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 12-01-2011, 08:46 AM   #1
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: London, UK
Posts: 42

S/C/G: 130

Height: 5'9

Default When results fail to keep you motivated...

Has anyone ever started a diet where within the first or second week started noticing weight loss, and had OTHERS noticing as well, yet, rather than having this motivate you to stay on tract...for some reason you feel as though 'yes, i've lost weight but realistically how much more can i lose? i'll never look the way I want to' and because you miss all the goodies that you've cut out and are EXHAUSTED from continuous exercising...you give up?? This happens to me all the time...and once I fall off track I ask myself WHY? What emotions triggered my downfall when I looked and FELT great? ..If i had only just stayed on track I would have been closer to reaching my goal...

Wondering whether others have experienced the same, and how one copes??

thanks!
nat123 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 09:09 AM   #2
Senior Member
 
bargoo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Davis, Ca
Posts: 23,149

S/C/G: 204/114/120

Height: 5'

Default

Ask yourself this ;
Which is better, fat, unattractive and unhealthy or slim, attractive, full of energy and healthy ?
Which looks better clothes in extra large sizes or size 6 ?
__________________
Goal 12/21/2007
bargoo is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 09:24 AM   #3
Senior Member
 
GlamourGirl827's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Under the Sea
Posts: 1,794

S/C/G: New Baby/Ticker/Half Marathon

Height: 5' 6" on a good day

Default

I went through this for over a decade! I'd lose weight, but looking and feeling good was not enough to keep my diet going or my exercising. My "need" for sweets and my natural disposition to sit rather than get moving always won. For me diet and exercise felt like a job and I too felt like 'how long can I really keep doing this?'
First I attempted to solve to exercise issue. For me I'd alway been an on again off again gym goer, because really I don't like the gym. I'm not a people person and I found especially more crowded times to be annoying. I wanted working out to be a pleasurable thing I liked forward to, not a chore. About a year ago, I began using a treadmill at home, which helped a little. When I took my running outdoors, I finally, first time in my life LIKED working out. It was peaceful, alone time I'd wanted. What I'm trying to say is if the gym isn't working for you, ask yourself what you would like you workout to be like, maybe swimming is better or biking? I don't even think of running as working out. I love running. I can do it forever. 90% of the time I want to go running, and I do push myself the other 10%.
I found the diet part to be harder. Eventually I'd always go back to over eating or eating sweets. Lots of sweets. Allowing a little treat here and there turned into a lot of treats. Slowly I changed my general way of eating to mostly whole foods so most of my diet is healthy but I still couldn't tackle the sweets. For me, I recently stopped eating sugar. And for the first time my appetite is under control. That may or may not work for you. Some people give up white flour, some do well with low carb, some may go vegetarian or vegan. Play around with our diet until ou find away of eating that controls your hunger if it's cravings you are dealing with. If you are just feeling restricted them try not to cut out all 'bad' foods but allow them in moderation. This works for some people as well.
You have to find a new eating plan and exercise that you can do the rest of your life. And treat them separately. If I decided to pig out for the next week,I'd still run. Likewise if I didn't run all week, I'd still eat the way I do. And give it time. It took me almost a year to really have running a part of my life. And dietary changes can take a while to feel like they are normal for you rather than a diet.
This is not a plug for running, but if you haven't tried it, ou should! It's a little addicting actually!
__________________



2007- 230 lbs to 160 lbs after baby #1 Boy
2010- 220 lbs to 145 lbs after baby #2 Boy
2013 - 215 lbs to 157 lbs after baby #3 Boy
Baby #4 - It's a Girl! born 3-19-15

~Done having babies and losing for the last time~
GlamourGirl827 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 09:42 AM   #4
Playing to Lose
 
ShanIAm's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Richmond, Virginia
Posts: 877

S/C/G: 194/ticker/129

Height: 5' 1"

Default

Funny because I was just walking down the hall 5 minutes ago at work thinking, "No one comments on my weight loss anymore and it's making me feel LESS motivated".

But no one is commenting because people got used to seeing the majority of my weight loss end back in July and August. So now I'm just Shannon. Not Shannon-Who-Lost-A-Lot-Of-Weight.

When the compliments stopped my motivation stopped too. And I still have around 15 more pounds I want to drop. I guess I got complacent as well.

So I actually have the opposite problem. Maybe it all comes down to how comfortable we are receiving compliments. For me, I obviously LOVE them. Perhaps for you it makes you uncomfortable? And although you feel great and look better it makes you uncomfortable that others are noticing and then you sabatoge?

The mind is a mysterious thing. The emotional part of losing weight and also gaining weight perplexes me to this day.
__________________


1/4/15: Restarting my journey exactly 4 years from when I first started in January 2011. Reached my goal weight in 2012 and regained half of it back.

I never should have left 3FC!
ShanIAm is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 10:40 AM   #5
Just Yr Everyday Chick
 
JayEll's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Florida
Posts: 10,098

S/C/G: Lost 50 lbs, regained some

Height: 5'3"

Default

Maybe you are making your program too hard because you want fast results. That makes it a lot easier to give up. You shouldn't be "EXHAUSTED from continuous exercise"--unless you're really exaggerating, that's too much.

Try a more moderate approach. Don't cut your food down drastically, and don't go off the deep end with exercise. It may take longer for others to notice a difference, but so what?

Also, I suggest you find ways of dealing with that self-sabotage voice that tells you you'll never succeed, never look the way you want, etc. That's the voice that wants you to give up and eat. It doesn't care what happens to you, it just wants you to eat. Counter that voice by saying (out loud if needed) "I can succeed. I can look better. I can feel better. I can stay with my plan." Each and every time it comes up!

Jay
__________________
"My religion is kindness." --His Holiness the Dalai Lama

JayEll is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 01:12 PM   #6
WC
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 578

S/C/G: sz 14-16/sz 10/sz 10 now sz 8

Height: 5'7"

Default

I completely understand what you're talking about but with me it's like oh well I've lost weight & look great so it totally wont matter if I go eat pasta instead of a workout & smart ones...and that leads to a total downward spiral until I notice the weight is back on - I need to stop rewarding myself with food...something I'm working on...
lm3898 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 01:25 PM   #7
Dedicated Yogi
 
stimkovs's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Toronto, ON
Posts: 894

S/C/G: 269/188/160

Height: 5'8 1/2 :)

Default

you are not a dog. do not reward yourself with food.



Quote:
Originally Posted by lm3898 View Post
I completely understand what you're talking about but with me it's like oh well I've lost weight & look great so it totally wont matter if I go eat pasta instead of a workout & smart ones...and that leads to a total downward spiral until I notice the weight is back on - I need to stop rewarding myself with food...something I'm working on...
__________________
Sofie
"do not give yourself the permission to self-medicate with food" - eat to live.

Current Goals

180-
175-
170-
165-
164 (Normal BMI).

"every day that you don't gain a lb back in a victory on it's own."
stimkovs is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 01:38 PM   #8
Pain Is Fuel
 
Mimzzy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Canada
Posts: 406

S/C/G: 180/176/118

Height: 5'5

Default

If you have done this a couple times and rewarded yourself with pasta and then re-gained all the weight then you should know that it totally DOES matter. Your choices, good or bad every day matters. I am not saying you can't slip up, we all do and its okay once in a while not all the time and you absolutely have to get on track right after the slip up. You need to find a different reward system, something like a new pair of shoes or a manicure after you lost X amount of weight.
__________________
Mimzzy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 02:07 PM   #9
Senior Member
 
Natasha22's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 387

Default

Everyone has ups and downs, don't be discouraged. It's important to keep yourself motivated and focus on positive aspects in your life. Often, we find ourselves eating way too much than what our body needs because we are not engaged in activities that fulfill us.

Also, sometimes, we view dieting as punishment, because we're not allowed to eat our favorite foods, or because exercising feels too exhausting. Here's a few tips from my own personal experience. Always award yourself a little gift after each week of dieting. It could be your favorite piece of pie (a small piece of course), or a book, a bracelet, a little something to put a smile upon your face.

Stop weighting yourself too often, because you'll end up obsessing over a number, and that's not good. Use a quantum scale (you should be able to find one online), it does not display your weight, it simply records it and lets you know when your weight starts changing again.

Also, try to turn exercising into a fun experience, for instance, if you have a dog, grab a frisbee and enjoy a day in the park running and playing with your pet. Call your best friend and go to a pool, or a game of tennis. These are all fun activities and you get to burn calories as well.

I hope this helped and good luck to everyone fighting this battle
Natasha22 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 02:08 PM   #10
Senior Member
 
kaplods's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Wausau, WI
Posts: 13,361

S/C/G: SW:394/310/180

Height: 5'6"

Default

I think this is the classic pattern of weight loss. You asked if "anyone" had experienced this, and I would bet that (for anyone who has dieted more than once) it would be harder to find anyone who has not.

This is what drives me crazy about weight loss. It's still such a taboo subject, that nearly everyone thinks they're the only one - that "everyone else" is more motivated, more successful....

We don't know what success really looks like, because we don't know what everyone else is doing. Especially since when it comes to weight loss, people tend to talk a lot more about their successes than their perceived short-comings.

No one wants to admit that the "real" average for weight loss is far less than one pound per week - so only ever seeing magazine and television weight loss, they assume they're failing when they're actually in the top 2%.

We're taught to see anything less than 2 lbs, or 1% of our weight as dismal failure, instead of the amazing success that it actually is. Our perception of "normal" is so skewed, that even the best losers, feel like they're failing.

There are many ways to succeed at weight loss, but I think most of them require more "unlearning" than learning, because so much of what we believe just isn't true.
__________________
My Etsy shop (currently closed for the summer)

http://www.dreamstormdesigns.etsy.com
etsy link by permission from 3fc! Want to add yours? Ask them!
kaplods is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 02:25 PM   #11
I choose me...
 
InsideMe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Toronto Canada
Posts: 882

S/C/G: HW 265/SW 240/CW ticker/GW 150

Height: 5 Ft 3

Default

Oh yes this has happened to me many many times. I think what's different this time are my choices. I just kept on myself to make better choices and to slow down and think twice of what I'm putting in my mouth. Bit by bit it got easier and when I fall to jump back on ASAP! Don't let it go too long, forgive yourself, and love you and realize yeah so what I made not a great choice next time I will do better, and if not, I will keep trying. Also I stopped rewarding myself with food! That's a HUGE one! It still plays out in my mind "oh I was so good this week I can treat myself" then I would gorge! I had to change my rewards from food to clothes, or getting my hair done etc. And I also look at myself alot. I take pics and really try to be realistic with what I see. The good and the bad and not concentrate on the bad. Like today, I can see the belly going, it's good, but it can get better. I can see my shoulders now, I never could before so I give myself positive affirmations daily. Like I'm good enough for this, I want this, it's happening, even if it takes the rest of my life, this is feeling GREAT. We can't go by positive affirmations from other people we have to do it ourselves and learn to self love. That is the biggest challenge not the weight loss. Weight loss is simply the icing on the cake
__________________


every 5lbs lost




Half-Way Progress Pics

Last edited by InsideMe : 12-01-2011 at 02:33 PM.
InsideMe is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 03:11 PM   #12
Embracing the suck
 
JohnP's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: California - East Bay
Posts: 3,185

S/C/G: 300/234/abs

Height: 6'9"

Default

Just wanted to reiterate the idea that if you're EXHAUSTED from exercise then you're doing too much.

Exercise is like getting a tan. If you want to get a nice tan do you go lay out in the sun for 8 hours straight? NO! That will result in a horrible sunburn. Exercise is similar. Take it easy - build yourself up over time.

Another reason not to over do exercise - it can make you hungry. (Some people yes, some no)

Finally - exercise doesn't burn that many calories anyways.

So do exercise - but don't over do exercise.
__________________
"Getting solid information is easier than ever. Getting misinformation is even easier." - Kaplods

Maintaining for two years and I eat whatever I want - just not however much I want. Details here.
JohnP is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 05:04 PM   #13
~Star~
 
ItsMyTurn's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Valley of the Sun, AZ
Posts: 1,726

S/C/G: 236.4/~ticker~/150

Height: 5'6"

Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by JohnP View Post
Just wanted to reiterate the idea that if you're EXHAUSTED from exercise then you're doing too much.

Exercise is like getting a tan. If you want to get a nice tan do you go lay out in the sun for 8 hours straight? NO! That will result in a horrible sunburn. Exercise is similar. Take it easy - build yourself up over time.

Another reason not to over do exercise - it can make you hungry. (Some people yes, some no)

Finally - exercise doesn't burn that many calories anyways.

So do exercise - but don't over do exercise.
I LOVE the tanning vs. exercise analogy!
__________________


ItsMyTurn is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 08:28 PM   #14
Optimistic cynic
 
Steph7409's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Albany, NY
Posts: 1,077

S/C/G: 225/138/125

Height: 5'3"

Default

Quote:
...for some reason you feel as though 'yes, i've lost weight but realistically how much more can i lose? i'll never look the way I want to'
This sounds more like a problem with negative self-talk than with motivation, a problem I know well I've been practicing telling that voice in my head to shut the f**k up. The more I do that, the easier it gets. Just like the more I make better choices about food, the easier it gets. Sometimes you have to just decide to stick with it, regardless of motivation.

Good luck!
__________________
I want to free myself from the burden of inaction. I want to raise myself to any plane I can imagine. ---Crowded House

Steph7409 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-01-2011, 08:30 PM   #15
Optimistic cynic
 
Steph7409's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Albany, NY
Posts: 1,077

S/C/G: 225/138/125

Height: 5'3"

Default

Quote:
...for some reason you feel as though 'yes, i've lost weight but realistically how much more can i lose? i'll never look the way I want to'
This sounds more like a problem with negative self-talk than with motivation, a problem I know well. I've been practicing telling that voice in my head to shut the f**k up. The more I do that, the easier it gets. Just like the more I make better choices about food, the easier it gets. Sometimes you have to just decide to stick with it, regardless of motivation.

Good luck!
__________________
I want to free myself from the burden of inaction. I want to raise myself to any plane I can imagine. ---Crowded House

Steph7409 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply
Posts by members, moderators and admins are not considered medical advice
and no guarantee is made against accuracy.


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Sayonara to the 140's challenge sweetshauna 20-Somethings 381 02-21-2010 11:29 AM
Overwhelmed by amount to lose-too tired to even start-how did you? Truffle 300+ Club 45 09-01-2008 05:14 PM
5-10 Pounds to lose by Turkey Day Challenge! Jasmine31 Chicks up for a Challenge 348 11-28-2006 07:47 PM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 10:00 AM.






Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2015, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.3.2