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Old 08-22-2011, 06:09 AM   #1
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So I just had a thought tonight that never REALLY occurred to me consciously before...I have never in my life been in maintenance-mode. I have had weight issues from a very young age. I've never really known a portion of my life where I WASN'T trying to lose weight. Ever.

There have obviously been times in my life spent heavier, and lighter. But never once have I ever, ever been a weight where I thought "I want to stay here". I've always just wanted to keep losing. But then again, I've never been "thin" in my adult life either, so that's probably justification in why I never was satisfied.

Now I'm getting quite close to goal weight. I have NEVER been this thin in my life, and now that I'm so close to my initial goal of 110lbs, I realize that this isn't quite where I want to be. I would like to see what I look like at 105lbs now. Who knows how long it will take me to get there, but I'm being very patient with myself, because I lose weight slowly.

I guess I just can't imagine a day where I will stop trying to lose weight. I'm sure I will get there. It's just funny that I'm 32 years old, and I never thought that this journey would be so long...my first diet was when I was 9, lol.

I don't know if I should be sad at this. On the one hand...I've spent most of my life trying to lose weight. So much time and energy spent that could have been spent on other things? But I also know that I should be grateful that I've managed for the first time in my life to get this close to my ideal weight. Maybe this journey won't have to take me a lifetime...
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First of all - congratulations on being so very close to your goal! If that's you in your avatar you look absolutely amazing!
I have had thoughts similar to yours, about how strange it is to have been in some kind of weightloss mode pretty much my whole life.
And yes, so much time and energy has gone into this. I'm hoping it will all be coming together soon for us all!
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Old 08-22-2011, 06:18 AM   #3
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I have always been either losing weight or gaining weight. I am looking forward to the day that I will start maintenance.

Have you taken a look at the Maintenance forum yet...I am still to far from goal, but I am starting to look forward to the day that I feel comfortable enough to look around there.
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Old 08-22-2011, 07:41 AM   #4
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I am your same height and 105 would be too thin for me , and too hard to maintain, it might work for you, however.It looks like you have lost 40 pounds if you haven't regained that , you are maintaining. You might want to check out the featherweights forum as well as the living maintenance forum.
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I am your same height and 105 would be too thin for me , and too hard to maintain, it might work for you, however.It looks like you have lost 40 pounds if you haven't regained that , you are maintaining. You might want to check out the featherweights forum as well as the living maintenance forum.
Yes, you're right. I've never regained, since a few years ago when I began at my highest weight of 150. I made a pact with myself that no matter what, I can stall, but never gain... When my weight goes up by a few pounds, I go into "lockdown" mode, and don't let up until it disappears. I was always under the impression that maintenance was when you no longer wanted to lose weight, and just "maintain" what you've lost. I've never been at that point. I've stalled in weight many times, but I've never been at a point that I had stopped wanting to lose weight. I very much look forward to belonging to a maintenace forum once I am at goal...
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Old 08-22-2011, 09:17 AM   #6
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When my weight goes up by a few pounds, I go into "lockdown" mode, and don't let up until it disappears.
My impression, from talking to lots of people, and reading the maintenance board here, is that for a lot of people, what you describe here is maintenance.
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If you lose one pound and keep it off you are maintaining.
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Old 08-22-2011, 09:33 AM   #8
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Over the weekend I saw a great, big lady wearing a Nike shirt that made perfect sense to me. It read, "There is no finish line." That's exactly how I am feeling about my weight. There is progress for me to make but there is no FINISH LINE just step after step and day after day. And that's okay.
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Old 08-22-2011, 10:43 AM   #9
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Carter and Bargoo: I'm so confused! So even if I am actively still trying to lose more weight, the fact that I haven't gained means that I'm in "maintenance"? I see so many ppl on the weight loss support forum that are actively losing weight and haven't gained...is this the same scenario for everyone?

I guess I assumed that maintenance was trying to stabilize and maintain their current weight. Since I am still actively losing...I feel like I should still belong in the weight loss support forum

Well, thanks for the input.
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It is normal for your weight to fluctuate a little even after reaching goal. My weight goes up and down by 2 pounds for no apparent reason. I am , however maintaining my weight loss.
I think you might be confusing goal with maintenance. You can be maintaining even if you are not at goal.
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Old 08-22-2011, 10:53 AM   #11
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I'm confused too! I thought weight loss mode (actively losing and not regaining) was different than maintenance. Because you are still trying to lose? For example, I expect my calories at maintenance to be higher than when I'm trying to lose.

I can relate OP, even though I used to be thin I was always trying to be thinner. I never just tried to "stay" at a certain weight. I have no clue what it will be like when I reach my goal of 125, b/c at that weight previously I was trying to get down to 110!
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I'm confused too! I thought weight loss mode (actively losing and not regaining) was different than maintenance. Because you are still trying to lose? For example, I expect my calories at maintenance to be higher than when I'm trying to lose.

I can relate OP, even though I used to be thin I was always trying to be thinner. I never just tried to "stay" at a certain weight. I have no clue what it will be like when I reach my goal of 125, b/c at that weight previously I was trying to get down to 110!

Oh thank you for the response!! That's exactly how I feel!! I have no idea what it will feel like to be "done" with losing weight, because I've never reached a goal weight!
I'm sure it will be an amazing feeling though...to one day just stop trying to lose more weight, and be okay with where I am. I long for the day where my focus will be to keep the needle on my scale at a certain number, instead of always wishing for it to keep getting lower!

Good luck with your goal!
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Regardless of how you define maintenance I think what SunnyJee is talking about is being satisfied with you weight and keeping it within a pre-established range. She has maintained her loss but never entered "maintenance mode".
I understand how you feel because I have always been gaining or trying to lose. I really have never been at the point where I was like "wow, I look good and I do not want to lose anymore weight." Then, you simply (much easier said then done!) maintain the weight you are at. I CANNOT WAIT for this feeling.
Congratulations on your weight loss! You look awesome!
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Regardless of how you define maintenance I think what SunnyJee is talking about is being satisfied with you weight and keeping it within a pre-established range. She has maintained her loss but never entered "maintenance mode".
I understand how you feel because I have always been gaining or trying to lose. I really have never been at the point where I was like "wow, I look good and I do not want to lose anymore weight." Then, you simply (much easier said then done!) maintain the weight you are at. I CANNOT WAIT for this feeling.
Congratulations on your weight loss! You look awesome!

You took the words right out of my mouth, and worded them much better than I had
Thank you for the compliment, and the support. Thank you, thank you!

It's funny...it makes me a little less sad to know that there are others out there just like me, who may never have known the feeling of not trying to lose weight. This journey is so lonely sometimes. It's hard to imagine a finish line, you know?

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I am sure you will do well in maintenance, when you reach it You have incorporated the techniques I was educated on when you stalled in order to prevent gain that became out of reach again... that is a main principal in the "maintenance" game. I have been trying to get my grubby mitts on anything I can to have the education needed to keep myself on the right track once I FINALLY get to that "happy" spot. I had been thin one other time in adulthood, but it was done in a healthy way at all, and this time I have ONLY done healthy things... so will be a whole new world. Almost the same as your shoes cause it seems to have been a constant battle and I am still a long ways from where I need to be... the difference this time (as it sounds like you adopted) is that I see the light at the end of the tunnel this time; I know I can succeed because I have accepted that there will be stalls, there will be slower times, parts of me will get weird before disappearing... but... maintenance almost seems scary - due to being unfamiliar territory. I also think it's normal to fear the unknown...fortunately a forum here to support through that too
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